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saggyhairyarse Fri 31-Jul-09 22:08:54

There was a little boy at the park today. A very sad and angry little boy.

He was shouting at the other kids in the park. Punching anyone that got in the way. He didn't know how to play.

He tried to push my friends daughter down a high ladder, then he dragged another child off of the top of the slide by their head and tried to kick another child down some steps.

I went to speak to him and said "oooo, be careful with the other children" and he said "I do what I like" and so I said "don't push anyone, especially at the top as if they fall all the way down they could really hurt themselves" and he said "I don't care" and he said "i'm going to hurt you, kick your ass" and so I said "I don't think so" and he said "shut up" and so I asked him where his Mum and Dad were and he said he "didn't have a Dad" and that I should "shut up or I would be sorry". So I just asked him to be careful of the other children.

Lots of other Mums were saying what a horrible, out of control boy he was and he was but I can't help but to wonder what his experiences are for him to be like that.

He was so, so angry, so agressive and he looked so sad (when I spoke to him his eyes were empty) and I can't help but think about him tonight. He was only about 7 or 8.

MrsJamesMartin Fri 31-Jul-09 22:11:12

Thats really sad sad "kick your ass" " shut up or you'll be sorry" someone has said that to him , or within earshot , of him before.

TheChilliMooseISNOTFOREATING Fri 31-Jul-09 22:13:00

That is sad. Like MrsJamesMartin says, he is repeating things that he has heard.

cjones2979 Fri 31-Jul-09 22:18:22

He may have had special needs.

A friend of mine has a little boy who is on the Autistic Spectrum and also has ADHD & he is like this a lot of the time.

He is very angry a lot of the time, but this is just how he is & can't be helped.

babybarrister Fri 31-Jul-09 22:19:41

it is tragic and 7 is a real turning point for how his behaviour is seen - the sympathy runs out and the condemnation commences.... shame society cannot offer sympathy for his plight for at least another few years before giving up on him....

southeastastra Fri 31-Jul-09 22:19:43

hes a man

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Fri 31-Jul-09 22:25:01

SEA what a strange response.

southeastastra Fri 31-Jul-09 22:35:32

think they should sometimes be left to fight it out, if there are enough reasonable children the bully will hopefully learn how to behave

TheLadyEvenstar Fri 31-Jul-09 22:41:42

Not a strange response really. Many little boys (not all) who live in a household where there is no male role model take on the role of the man. The one who holds it together.

An example is Bentley Green a little boy who wrote and performed this rap song

Lyrics:
Take look into my life and just see
Hard is it with just mama and me
anit not father with me.
Sometimes he dont wanna bother with me.
It kinda limits what my options can be.
So i just rock to the beat.
And try to keep my fans rockin with me.
Hopping daddy kept his promise with me.
But he cant.
Me and mom work hard till we faint.
Dont think it's all peaches and cream causes it anit.

I ask God to help me with this pain.
It hurts not see him at my football games.

Take a look into my life and just see
Hard it is with just mama and my
Anit no fathers with me sometime he dont wanna bother with me.
It kinda limits what my options can be so i just rock to the beat.
And try to keep my fans rockin with me.
Hoping daddy kept his promise with me but he cant.

Im the man of the house daddy left my sight
Mama Gatta cry put my head to the sky.
Im the man of the house gotta stay strong
Mama all alone but we still holding on.

Im the man of the house daddy left my sight
Mama gotta cry put my head to the sky.
Im the man of the house gotta stay strong
Mama all alone but we still holding on.

I dont know what i would be without my uncles.
I just wrote this song so i could tell you that i love ya.
I just wrote this song to tell them mamas keep pushing.
A lot of mamas made it when they all said they couldnt.
A lot of kids made it without daddy but their side.
It gets kinda bad.
But i forgive em' and i ride.

All the mom and dads need to try to patch it up
Just think before you act before you start packin up.
Just about all the kids.
Lil daughter lil sons.
Cuase growin up in a broken home anit fun.
And all the mamas holding grudes need two quit it
before your kids grow up thugish and some crimes get comited.

And this anit a hates song its about love for families.
It about responsibility to moms and daddys
its about sacrifices for your lil Childs sake.
Its about kids future keep thee hope and the faith.

Im the man of the house daddy left my sight
Mama gotta cry put my head to the sky.
Im the man of the house gotta stay strong
Mama all alone but we still holding on.
Im the man of the house daddy left my sight
Mama gotta cry put my head to the sky.
Im the man of the house gotta stay strong
Mama all alone but we still holding on.

When you just in elementary and the man of the house.
It gets kinda hard trying help mama out.
When you just in elementary and the man of the house.
It gets kinda hard just to help mama out.
But ima be strong and ima be a man.
Helping mama out, trying to do what i can.
Ima be strong and ima be a man
helping mama out trying to do what i can.

Im the man of the house daddy left my sight
Mama gotta cry put my head to the sky.
Im the man of the house gotta stay strong
Mama all alone and we still holdin on.
Im the man of the house daddy left my sight
Mama gotta cry put my head to the sky.
Im the man of the house gotta stay strong
Mama all alone but we still holdin on

Bentley Green Man of the house

saggyhairyarse Fri 31-Jul-09 22:42:12

I agree to a point SEA. I couldn't just sit there and not say anything when he was milimeters away from pushing kids off a 15ft climbing frame though.

prettyfly1 Fri 31-Jul-09 22:43:50

Oh my lord - what a mess -was his mother anywhere around. He sounds like a very lonely, defensive little boy - surely if he had learning disability or another form of disability mum would be watching.

Kayteee Fri 31-Jul-09 23:57:33

why are there 2 threads on this????

LadyGlencoraPalliser Sat 01-Aug-09 01:08:20

Presumably the OP accidentally posted twice. Why have you got your knickers in a twist about it?

Kayteee Sat 01-Aug-09 09:26:55

knickers?? in a twist?? nope, just asking a question....hmm

saggyhairyarse Sat 01-Aug-09 09:30:10

Kaytee, I don't know the answer to your question. I clicked 'post message' and it appeared twice.

Have you not witnessed that phenomenon before? It happens reasonably frequently that a message appears twice.

And it does look like this irked you because of the multiple question marks.

Kayteee Sat 01-Aug-09 10:48:26

well I wasn't irked grin...was a bit tipsy though wink

MamaKaty Sat 01-Aug-09 10:54:12

What a sad thread... I used to work as a community worker in a pretty unpleasant estate in Birmingham and it shocked me to the core how many of the kids, particularly the boys, had the sort of attitude you describe at the start of your thread. I'd think to most Mum's it is unimaginable to allow your child to feel so lost and defensive... it's a very sad circle.

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