DD1 has a long-awaited assessment at the child development centre. I really don't want to have to bring the baby along too, as I want to be able to concentrate properly on what is going on.
My mum works from flexibly from home and so is very supportive and helpful with babysitting etc. However dd2 is in full-blown separation anxiety stage, and last time I left her with my mum she spent much of the time completely hysterical.
I want DH to take a half-day off work to look after dd2 so I can take dd1 to the appointment. He has finally agreed to do so, but actually would much prefer to save the holiday time up. The only reason he has agreed to do it is that I reminded him about dd2 screaming last time I had to leave her.
I am obviously worried about dd1 and a bit anxious about the appointment. I think it is a serious and important occasion. And I feel that he is being unsupportive in assuming that my mum ought to be the one taking the time to help out.
I pointed out that she would bend over backwards to help, even if she were under pressure workwise. I'm sure she would work till 4am if necessary to make up the time and not tell me, if she thought I needed her. His reponse was to say that even if he worked till 4am it wouldn't help, and that he couldn't work that flexibly and that it would mean him losing a day's holiday. I just feel that on an important day for his daughter, he should be the one stepping up to the mark and providing support and back-up.
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Aranea · 23/07/2009 20:48
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