OK the story is this:
I went back to work three weeks ago when DS was 7mo. My retired parents spend two days with DS and DH does two but the MiL wanted to be involved and this is where the problem lies.
On Fridays DH takes DS over to MiL at 10.30, she looks after DS until 2.30 (when she goes to work) then drops him with my parents who bring him back to my house for when I get home from work at 4.00. This basically means that both his naps get interrupted and he gets passed between 4 people during the course of the day.
On the first day she had him, she only offered him one small bottle of EBM for the whole time she had him (it should have been at least two feeds as we split his lunchtime one). Today she gave him one small bottle of formula and didn't offer either of the two bottles of EBM that I'd sent which meant I had to ditch it He's had a total of 1.5 hours naps for the whole day and was shattered. Last time he kept me awake feeding for the whole night and I just know it's going to be the same tonight...
DS has a stinking cold and we asked MiL if she could come to our place to look after him today (which is what my parents have been doing for three weeks anyway, to ease him in) in order to minimise stress for him and she said no.
When I was on mat leave, we used to go to a baby group on Friday mornings and I asked her if she would continue to take him and she said no.
I asked DH a couple of days ago if we could put DS into our (fab) local day care one day a week and he hit the roof. It's not just for this reason that I want DS to go; we have no plan B in case my parents are ill for e.g. My dad was proper ill last week and it meant that we had to rearrange everything and DH had to take time off unpaid.
I raised it again today and DH got but finished his rant by saying, "do what you fucking want, I don't care". So I've booked DS in. I was genuinely being adult and cool about it but he has some fairly major anger issues and we are having some big marital probs at the moment anyway...
DH isn't home yet and I know he's going to go nuts as he was obviously just saying that he didn't care to shut me up. So my questions are:
(a) AIBU?
(b) How should I deal with DH?
(c) How do I tell the MiL?
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AIBU?
AIBU to have signed DS up for day care...
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feralgirl · 17/07/2009 20:07
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