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AIBU?

to just want a fucking job?

14 replies

SecretNinjaChipmunk · 03/07/2009 23:11

I got made redundant 7 months ago. I have applied for for about 200 or so jobs in the meantime. I have had 6 interviews and out of that have been offered 2 jobs that turned out to not pay enough to put ds in nursery for the time I would be there (i live on the edge of london and nursery is about £60 a day) so have had to turn them down. AIBU to now be getting massively upset, annoyed and generally angry that as a degree educated woman who has always worked since leaving college I cannot gain employment and find it difficult getting interviews. I have had enough. I love ds but I am not cut out to be a full time sahm just a part time one and it is affecting me to the point i think i might have mild depression. please somebody wither kick me into touch or tell me i'm not mad. That and also i feel bad that dp is now paying for everything, mortgage, car, bills and I can't contribute.

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QuintessentialShadow · 03/07/2009 23:13

When we lived in London, and paid London Nursery Fees (which indeed are extortionate) the child care element of the Tax credits covered nearly all the nursery fees. Have you looked into tax credits?

booyhoo · 03/07/2009 23:15

are you entitled to any benefits to help keep the wolf from the door? it would take the pressure off your DH. apart from that all i can suggest is to keep applying and in the meantime see it as a chance to spend quality time with your DS.

DebiNewberry · 03/07/2009 23:17

oh i feel for you - are you trying for part time work? i found it totally impossible to find meaningful part time (paid) work. when I didn't even get an interview for a library shelf-stacker I gave up and went back full time - and that was before the recession.

Katisha · 03/07/2009 23:17

What sort of thing are you looking for?

mrsboogie · 03/07/2009 23:19

I know it is horrendous that you can't even earn enough to pay the nursery fees but you quite often hear about couples who work for basically one salary just so that the mum can stay in the working world. If you did take one of these jobs (ok, depending on the job)would it be that within 6 or 12 months you would be able to step up the ladder a bit and earn a bit more? if so it might be worth doing it with a more long term view. You would certainly have the motivation to succeed!

I have been in a similar situation in going off benefits to start working as a single mum and ending up for a while quite a bit worse off. But a few pay rises and promotions later and it was better. The job obviously needs to be one which offers some opportunities for fairly rapid advancement.

Am also in a similar position now in that if we were to have a second child it would cancel out one of our salaries to pay the childcare. It is hard and should not be the case. YANBU at all.

SecretNinjaChipmunk · 03/07/2009 23:24

had jsa contribution based for 6 months but now not elligable to claim jsa income based as dp earns too much. can't get working tax credits till i get a job and have previously applied for child tax credits and didn't get anything so i don't thinbk i can claim anyrthing else? now don't get me wrong dp earns a reasonable wage but cos of where we live it only just covers mortgage, bills food etc with pretty much bugger all left over. i've been applying for ft jobs as well as pt but i feel like i'm in a mouse wheel and am runing out of steam! its such a knockback to your self esteem when you don't hear anything or get constant rejections.

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Katisha · 03/07/2009 23:30

Are you over qualified for the sort of thing you are applying for? (Only guessing)

SecretNinjaChipmunk · 03/07/2009 23:31

yes probably katisha but its that or nothing most of the time. or i'm qualified in the wrong thing.

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Boobalina · 03/07/2009 23:42

I'm in exactly the same boat - but have seen it as an opportunity to have time with kids I will nbever ever get back - surrendered to it. And surrendered to the skint bit too. Its only for a while until recession sorts its self out, things can change in future, its a fab summer and I am watching my two lovely kids grow up. Why not have a month when you dont look and see how you feel about being at home then?

I work in a niche market and cant get p/t work and dont want to do F/T for time being. No work PT around for me

moomaa · 03/07/2009 23:50

Sorry to hear about your situation, I think anyone would be depressed by now! Is it possible that you could take a job that didn't pay that well with a view to still looking? Sometimes employers prefer someone that is already employed.

Have you applied for the child tax credits since you got made redundant?

whereeverIlaymyhat · 04/07/2009 00:48

It's nothing personal but thank godness one of you has a job and you are keeping your heads above water, plenty aren't at the moment and it'll get worse before it gets better.
Hang on in there.

Clwc · 04/07/2009 01:46

My JSA has just run out too. I suspended trading (I'm self-employed) over the winter and spring, because I had no work coming in. Now I'm being drip-fed work, and it's barely covering anything. I just spent the last couple of days working a few hours (mainly for relatives) just to pay off the bank so I don't get charges. I've also been applying for employment, even in jobs I would probably hate.

I don't have children yet, but hope that one day DP and I will be able to afford for me to be a SAHM, part-time, at least.

It is all very depressing. YANBU.

I wish I could wave a magic wand for all of us who are sinking in the same boat.

SecretNinjaChipmunk · 04/07/2009 08:56

whereever you make a very valid point, and yes i am also lucky to be spending this time with ds when he's little.
i feel a bit more positive this morning and whilst i hate being in this situation it is slightly comforting to know its not just me (not in a nasty way if that makes sense!).

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whereeverIlaymyhat · 04/07/2009 10:39

This is the thing, if you were struggling to get a job in 2004 you'd have needed a good slap There are some really really good people struggling right now.
Something will turn up, I keep being offered jobs but they think they can offer me starting salaries of less than 10 years ago and the awful thing is I'll probably end up taking one too

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