Hello...
little bit of background.. I'm 30 weeks pg with my first baby... The pg wasn't planned, but I haven't not wanted the baby at any time.
Father of baby and I, had been sleeping with each other (and no one else on his part) for about 6 years off and on.
He didn't take the news of pg very well at all, at about 12 weeks we had a blazing row (over the phone - he lives 100 miles away), where he told me that he never wanted baby in the first place and still didn't want it... so I told him (not too politely) that if that was how he felt then he could f**k off... I would never stand in his or his parents way of having a relationship with his child but he had to want to no just feel he should...
He apologised for outburst about 18 weeks, I said that I stood by what I had said, I wanted him involved but only if he wanted to be...
He hasn't been to any scans, rung me or anything through out the pregnancy... I have sent him copies of all the pictures from the scans, plus a copy of the the 4d scan I had done. Not once has he thanked me or even said that he had received the 4d scan...
Spoke to him about 6 weeks ago, when he told me he wanted to be involved - be at the birth etc... which was quite a shock but I was pleased as I do want him involved.
However I've heard nothing since....
I have days of being very angry and upset by the push me pull you feelings... and have decided that I am now too tired to be constantly extending the olive branch to him...
My so called friends all say he'll come round when the baby is born... but I really don't want him to come round when the baby is born... and am getting fed up with my friends excusing his behaviour - he's too young... erm no he isn't he's 23.. what he is is too immature maybe but he's not too young... the most annoything thing I think is that they all seem to be able to see his side of things clearer than me... btw none of my friends have children..... Incidently I don't bring him up in conversation they always do, and I try and end the conversation as quickly as possible as I know it annoys me...
Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed???
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To be annoyed by all the "he'll come round when its born" talk.....
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KateyG · 21/06/2009 14:38
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