The term before DS started school I had a meeting with the Head of Inclusion and the Parent School Liaison. DS has quite a few issues I thought they should know about.
He has a significant developemental delay
He is adopted
Birth mother is related to us so there are security issues
Contact with b.mum could reoccour at anytime and would cause upset etc.
DS suffered early neglect and trauma and this has affected him in lots of ways.
His first three years were extremly distrupted and chaotic.
His beloved sister died not long before he started school.
He has severe exzema which needs lots of treatment and consideration i.e. cant sit next to window, radiators, on carpets.
I told them all this not because I like talking about myself and not because I am precious about DS. I thought they would appricate the heads up. I wanted to make transition as smooth as possible for a little boy who finds change very hard.
DS starts school
Teacher and LSA know nothing about said issues. Skin care not been organised.
DS goes up a year
Teacher and LSA know nothing about issues, not even his learning difficulties. Skin care not organised. Turns out the wrong teacher has been given information! First topic of term 'me and my family' I wasnt informed even though I had asked specifically to be told aout this sort of thing so I could prepare DS.
Teacher leaves and new teacher starts
Know nothing about DS's issues NOTHING.
I have always been open with school. Told them what they needed to know, even though I dont really want to talk about a lot of it. I have found myself explaining things to bemused teachers (not their fault)in front of parents and children. Getting really fed up now. Head of Inclusion just not doing what he said he would.
DS has quite a few issues related to his past. Makes him v.insecure. Talks about his sister a lot and has a little dialouge he uses to reassure himself that she is ok. May sound like nonsense to an adult who is not clued up but v.important to him. And he has learning difficulties.
How on earth are the teachers supposed to teach him and care for him effectively if they are not told his background? The teachers and LSAs he has had have really tried hard once they know what is going on. DS cant tell them, he doesnt have the language.
Feel really upset with HOI.
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chegirl · 05/06/2009 20:13
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