DP and his f*****g x-box

[plj]

AIBU to be psychotically enraged with DP who sits up till 2am on x-box, comes to bed, crashes out and doesn't surface for 8 solid hours?

Meanwhile, I have to go to bed, early and alone, as am up 3-4 times during night with twins, and up on my own with them both at 7am every morning.

AIBU to consider seriously sabotaging the damned thing?

[SparklyGothKat]

take the power lead, I have done that before

[mumblechum]

Agree, if he's acting like a 14 year old, treat him like a 14 year old. My ds (guess what,14!) has the controller and power lead locked up in a filing cabinet for all but 6 hours a week.

This may be a teensy bit draconian for your dh, but I'd seriously come & unplug him if he's not in bed by 12.

Having said that, my dh doesn't come to bed before 2am most nights, but he's working or meditating till that time & still gets up for work.

[DaphneMoon]

Selfish bugger. Kick him into touch.

[pingping]

Have you told him how you feel? Maybe just talk to him about it

[Lauriefairycake]

erm....no, I don't think you should take his possessions.

I think you should consider if he was like this before and what sort of conversations you had about how you were going to parent together before. If he hasn't changed from before then you equally picked him so you need to find a way to negotiate with him.

[AbbaFan]

Are you married to my DH, because mine sounds just the same!

He never watches TV, just spends every single night playing halo or fifa 09.

Do you have the added pleasure of him playing on-line, and shouting through the head-phone too, like me

[jelliebelly]

have you all married teenagers????

[Lotster]

Ahhhh, the Stupid-box, as my BF calls her husband's.

It's really unfair for him to be glued until 2am and not helping with his kids I grant you. Although I used to love playing computer games when I was younger and the time just disappears when you're playing, but then again, I had children and grew up so no reason why he couldn't I suppose!

He needs to be a "present" father and you need a break and some help. So if I were you, I'd tackle the time issue rather than his past-time - I've had friend's who's husbands and partners stay up late doing a lot worse - online poker (with family cash), smoking weed, porn, or just disppearing to the pub and friend's houses till all hours, all far worse.

Good luck.

[NannyNanny]

Sounds exactly like my DP.

[kitchendevil]

At least he's not in bed at 10 expecting a night of passion

[idobelieveinghosts]

My DP is exactly the same..and wonders why he is tired the next day...but then still manages to stay up late again.....

He sits in his little corner...chatting loudly to all his little COD4 friends..and having a ball......and leaves me lonely....and then says the next morning...you didn't tell me you were going to bed?!?!?.....errr.....as if you would have heard me.

x-box 360's weren't invented when we had our twins ;)

[UmSami]

PLJ - I completely sympathise, had (have) the same prob with my DH & his Play Station as well as Championship B**y Manager.

My initial approach to the situation was to nag, scream, cry and sulk...very healthy, but largely fueled by postnatal hormones and new born exhaustion...anyway, 2.7 years and a few rational conversations later things have hugely improved...he still needs his time (which is fine), but fits it in around his family...ie he gets up early to play before work and plays in the evening whilst I am putting DS to bed (longer if he can get away with it, but the odd strop - this time fueled by pregnancy hormones ...keeps this in check)

YANBU, he needs to learn to put his family first...but you need to find a way to get this through to him...mine was all about how inappropriate games were in front of son, son needs time and so do I...and thankfully as son grew and made his own feelings about wanting daddy clear, he found it harder and harder to say no...

Stay strong, it can improve! Good luck!

[UmSami]

PLJ - I completely sympathise, had (have) the same prob with my DH & his Play Station as well as Championship B**y Manager.

My initial approach to the situation was to nag, scream, cry and sulk...very healthy, but largely fueled by postnatal hormones and new born exhaustion...anyway, 2.7 years and a few rational conversations later things have hugely improved...he still needs his time (which is fine), but fits it in around his family...ie he gets up early to play before work and plays in the evening whilst I am putting DS to bed (longer if he can get away with it, but the odd strop - this time fueled by pregnancy hormones ...keeps this in check)

YANBU, he needs to learn to put his family first...but you need to find a way to get this through to him...mine was all about how inappropriate games were in front of son, son needs time and so do I...and thankfully as son grew and made his own feelings about wanting daddy clear, he found it harder and harder to say no...

Stay strong, it can improve! Good luck!

[unavailable]

If he doesnt get up before 10am, does this mean he isnt working either? What contribution does he make ?

[Lotster]

LOL KitchenDevil! Small mercies eh?!

[lizziemun]

YANBU

My dh play pc games (world of warlock) untill late at night.

He played the before we met and married and before we had children and i don't mind. But the difference is when we had our dd's he did the night feed at 2am because he was up and so i had a good night sleep.

[grouchyoscar]

Bloody Geeky MEN!!! YANBU

DH is PC, DS and Iphone obsessed. I come a very poor 5th or 6th in significance.

Lets start a GAGs group (Girls Against Geeks')

[bozza]

Gaming is addictive though. I mean I just have "one more game" of Scramble on Facebook about 10 times sometimes. However he is pushing the limits too far. Do the twins every wake before 2? And if so who deals with them?

[frankbestfriend]

Does he not have to get up for work?

If he isn't working he should definitely be doing the night shifts with the dts.

YANBU

[UpJacobscreek]

Drop it I did . It cost me a fortune but of I had known what a pita it was going to be it would never have got in the house .
One day after another of his moodswings because he was tired and ratty with me and dc I waited till I had done school run came home to find him asleep on sofa while he was meant to be caring for newborn I picked the xbox up to shoulder height and let it drop ,the bang did wake him up .
I then took newborn for a lovely walk in the park while he cried .

[LostGirl]

plj - mine is exactly the same. I am up at 4am everyday with dd2 whilst at the weekend he gets to lie in until whenever o'clock. Unfortunately he also tries to wake me up for a night of passion at whatever time he decides to roll into bed, and then wanders why I don't feel like talking to him the next morning when he finally surfaces and I have already been up for about 6 hours with the kids! If you ever find a way to amicably solve the problem of the x-box and all cursed football managing games then please find me and let me know! Best of luck!

[plj]

DP works on rigs, so home for 2 and away for 2 weeks. I have tried several approaches to tackle this with him, including, tears, tantrums and the odd sexual bribe, but to no avail. He claims it's his 'down time'

I am just fed up going to bed alone every night. Not suggesting for one minute that I would always be up for a night of passion, but guess I could cope with one, once in a while.

Really don't want to impose a curfew on him, but would it be too much to expect him to come to bed with me, or shortly after, once or twice a week?

I does make me mad that his on line COD4 buddies are obviously more interesting than me.

[plj]

If I could figure out how to distangle all the cables and leads behind the telly, I would definately drop the bleeding thing from a great height!

I get up with the twins when they are up before 2, and sit seething, knowing he is downstairs on x-box.

He feebly says that I should have shouted him to come upstairs, but TBH he doesn't hear babies crying, or me getting up, so wouldn't hear me shouting. 9Normally has head set on)

Also, what would be the point-I am already up, and he would 'just finish this game' before he moved his backside up the stairs.

AAAAAAAAAAAAGH! I HATE X-BOX!