I have 2 DC's, and am pg, so hard work. But we're okay!
We spoke late last night and he was really drunk. I just felt angry because I hadn't sat down for one second from 7 am until he called me at midnight, when I finally fell into bed.
He calls at 4.30 pm today and I say I feel really poorly, headachy etc and am going to have an early night. He tells me he's going out for a couple of pints and will call me later. So, he goes out just after we talk (4.30 pm). He knows the DC's want to talk to him but he doesn't call so I text him at 10 pm to say goodnight and he replies nearly an hour later saying love you, call you in a bit. before they went to bed I had the DC's saying 'we don't need daddy anyway mummy', with tears in their eyes.
It's just so unlike him, usually cares. especially when I'm pg and feeling ill.
Do you think he got pissed again and forgot to call?
If it's not like him, then I would forgive him. YANBU but I don't think it's the worse thing he could do. He's probably gone out for a meal with some work colleagues, they've had a few pints, not checked the time.... we've all done it (although mine were double vodkas, not pints!)
I'm not in the same boat, no, but "we don't need daddy anyway, mummy" is just what my brother and I thought when we were young. He only only worked downstairs in the pub but he was still a million miles away in other ways.
I don't know whether they said it to reassure you as well. It's just quite a mature thing for children of that age to be saying, shows they know what's going on, like we did and I think your DH needs to be told that.
yes, it is an unusual thing for him to be working away. don't get me wrong, I don't care how long he goes out for or where he goes when he's away, I just wish he'd phoned the DC's, and not expected me to stay up late to talk to him, drunk, when he could have called me and the kids earlier and then gone and done whatever.
He is very close to the DC's and me, I think that's why he has shocked me so much. He's been promising to bring them a present back and he's called them just now and said he'd take them shopping when he comes back....he's in a city centre FFS!
They said 'okay daddy' but their little faces fell. He shouldn't have said he'd bring them something back if he had no intention.
I asked my youngest DC what he meant when he said we don't need daddy and he said 'I mean it's okay if he's not here because we're not lonely, we are together'. Don't get me wrong, when he is at home we are very much a 'family'. We do everything together. I think this week has just been a shock to us all
So, when you have finished raking him over the coals, twice, once for last night and then once for not getting the DCs a present. Talk to him and explain why you were hurt. I bet he just is enjoying some freedom - i would like a double helping of some freedom just now. Then let it go and be the lovely family you describe. Being reasonable about twuntery is just fantastic for tweaking those guilt hormones you know