AIBU to be pissed off with dh's nan

[tegan]

We came home this afternoon to find a answer machine message from dh's nan very out of breath saying she needed dh and putting the phone down. I (30 wks pg) and dh paniced madly and he rushed off to make sure she was ok.

5 minutes later he rings me to say she is fine and she needed him to cut some trees down.

I was tamping mad to think she would get him up her house on false pretences just to cat a couple of trees.

Also that is only the 2nd time in 12 years she has rang us.

[AuntieMaggie]

2nd time in 12 years she rings you and it's to panic you into thinking she's ill and it's cos she wants your dh to cut trees down?

YANBU I would be really peeved at this.

[BitOfFun]

YANBU - the cheek!

[wb]

I can see why you are annoyed but it's not like he had to go very far, is it? If she was 200 miles away then I think that would have been unreasonable.
So YANBU but give her a break.

[noonki]

how old is she?

[Yanda]

Um, did you try ringing her back before rushing round? How old is she? Alot of older people are not good at talking on the phone and especially answerphones. I think the fact that she doesn't ring you regularly night reflect this. Also it only took your DH 5 minutes to get there and then tell you she was alright? It was hardly a five drive up the motorway. Or is there something you have omitted from the OP that might mean that she is prone to manipulative behaviour? Was she apologetic? Did you explain the situation to her? I would like like to reserve judgement without further information.

[DisasterAreaIsOffToCostaRica]

tegan are you welsh? tamping is a fab word.
YANBU. my mother does this - souts 'PHONE ME BACK URGENTLY' i panic and all she wants is to know when i can take her shopping.

[tegan]

She is 85 and in perfect health, she lives a 5 minute walk from our house, but she is very unreasonable.
She refuses to call my dd's by their names as she doesn't like what dh called them. I did try ringing and there was no answer, i also called mil who said if she was had been ill she was probably dead seeing as she left the message at 10.30 and we got it at 1pm.

[squeaver]

Hmm, your mil sounds nice too

[macdoodle]

But sensible

[clam]

Sorry, but that's 85-year-olds for you.

[mynameisluka]

Only the second time in twelve years? Sounds like lucky you!

[strummer]

Hang on she is 85, it is lucky she is alive for starters. Secondly, wether she is in good health or not, at that age she can pretty much do what she pleases. So imo, yabu

[wehaveallbeenthere]

Tegan, yep sounds like you have it lucky. Your DH...what does he think about it all?
My own mother is tons worse (I am in heavy envy of your situation) and my mil is a couple hundred miles away (she is a doll though but the DH doesn't agree on that so I try to stay out of it).
I think it is a mixed blessing that she lives close to you.

[noonki]

sorry I think yabu

she isn't ringing all the time
she may have genuinely been out of breath
she might be rubbish with answerphones (my nan is- )
she wanted some help with something she couldn't do
and she is 85 that is really old

[glitterball]

agree yabu

shes 85 ffs!

clearly she cant cut trees down herself (unless she's really supergran!) & to have only rung twice in 12 years she's not exactly nagging for help all the time....but tbh she's more than entitled to do so at her age anyway!

[tegan]

I know 85 is old but if she had left a message saying could dh pop by and a few jobs it wouldn't of been a problem and he could of taken the dd's to see her at the same time and he would of been in old clothes not his best jeans which are now ruined. Also she pays a gardener £25 a week to do these jobs for her.