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Not to let my kids do after school clubs

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GodzillasBumcheek Thu 11-Sep-08 21:35:42

Ok i am tackling this problem in advance, as they haven't asked yet, but;

They have a 35 minute walk home, and the clubs finish at 5.30. If they do the 35 minute walk they go through some pretty quiet short-cuts, which while fine at school closing time, when busy and it's light, i would be quite worried if they were walking home down the same places when it's dark in the winter. I can't pick them up at this time as i have a toddler and no car, and their school is well away from anywhere i am likely to go during the day.

AIBU or just cautious?

MaureenMLove Thu 11-Sep-08 21:39:18

Of course ynbu! What about getting them to team up with someone who's parent does have a car and will drop your lo's off?

TheInvisibleManDidIt Thu 11-Sep-08 21:48:01

what about looking for other clubs in your area, closer to your home.

Not from your area, but around here there's alot of kids clubs outwith schools. Try the local community centers & sports halls closer to your house.

GodzillasBumcheek Thu 11-Sep-08 21:48:58

M - good idea but i/they would presumably have to know someone first, lol! They are only in Year 7 so don't know many people.

If they ask me if they can join a club i will make sure they ask around though, as i hadn't thought of that (being very independant, we usually think 'if we can't do it ourselves, we can't do it').

MaureenMLove Thu 11-Sep-08 21:53:34

It won't take long for them to have new friends and they will probably be the reason they want to join a club anyway!

GodzillasBumcheek Thu 11-Sep-08 21:58:23

TIMDI - we have tried it.

Girl Guides is boring (well, the local one here is pretty badly organised)

The Youth Club is only one night a week and they have decided they don't like it any more!

Only other thing is Girls Brigade - and we are Aetheists, lol!

GodzillasBumcheek Thu 11-Sep-08 21:59:56

Maureen - ooo that could be another thread entirely! They are getting Very Annoyed with people.

MaureenMLove Thu 11-Sep-08 22:04:11

Oh dear! Why are they annoyed with people.

shock@ Guides being boring! I am a Guider and we are not boring!! grin Although, I agree, if you don't get the right group leader, it can be pretty dire!

purits Thu 11-Sep-08 22:08:29

Can they cycle instead of walking?

GodzillasBumcheek Thu 11-Sep-08 22:10:44

Oh i used to go to Guides, and i didn't find it boring, but apparently they let the Guides choose the activities, and the activities are then without fail 'listening to music' and 'standing around talking'!
So when they got too old for Brownies, they just didn't go up.

They are very annoyed because they are a bit unusal and people are noticing!

TooTicky Thu 11-Sep-08 22:11:03

No Scouts/ St John Ambulance/ sports clubs?

tori32 Thu 11-Sep-08 22:21:16

Pre booked taxi to collect? hmm until they know someone. Pardon my ignorance but how old? Primary or secondary? Is there no bus?

SlartyBartFast Thu 11-Sep-08 22:23:44

or leave it til evenigns are lighter?

TinkerBellesMum Thu 11-Sep-08 22:24:01

I was in Girl's Brigade from when I was 4 and it has changed a lot. I remember a lot of people who didn't go to church and missed out on certain badges, but they changed the system and it doesn't happen now. Most of the work isn't Christian based anyway.

I've been in St John since I was 12 and highly recommend it. The Proficiencies cover a lot of things, plus the duties are fun and of course the first aid skills they teach are invaluable (and even at 12 what you learn in FA is far better than what the office FA'er would have done).

SlartyBartFast Thu 11-Sep-08 22:25:03

as they are year 7 there is plenty going on for them new at the moment as it is - leave it.

SlartyBartFast Thu 11-Sep-08 22:25:36

or how about scouts? quite fun

TinkerBellesMum Thu 11-Sep-08 22:26:32

Oh and because of the relationship you end up building in St John you can nearly always guarantee someone will give you a lift. You need to be able to trust the people you work with, even when you're talking about young Cadets, so there is a lot of social to it and looking out for each other.

pointydog Thu 11-Sep-08 22:27:38

Hard to say wiothout knowing your area but I think you might be being unreasonable

MaureenMLove Thu 11-Sep-08 22:30:04

Good point about the lighter evenings actually. If they don't 'gel' with anyone for a while, then suggest they wait for the spring/summer after school timetable. The evenings will be light again and you may feel slightly more at ease about them coming home together at that time in the afternoon.

I know I was petrified of DD doing anything after school the first term of yr 7, but by the summer term, I didn't mind so much and now she's in Yr 8, I don't even question it!

GodzillasBumcheek Thu 11-Sep-08 22:36:38

Good points all, thank you.

Right, will wait until they are coping a bit better with school i think (homework is only just getting done at the moment), and try them with some of the suggestions.

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