Oooh, first AIBU thread for me. Sorry - bit long so that I can give detail!
last night DP was putting up some cheap and cheerful shelves from Argos. Needless to say it wasn't going brilliantly because they are CHEAP. He was feeling frustrated and I think a little guilty as he'd talked me into these super cheap ones vs a slightly more expensive cupboard thing. Towards the end, he made a mistake while doing it and got very very frustrated and started punching the frame of the shelves. This is something I hate. In a split second my mind thinks 1. he's going to hurt himself 2 he's destroying property WE bought 3. what if he does this when we have children? He'll traumatise them for life. And I get mad. I told him to stop and he didn't so eventually I screamed at him to stop.
At that point, I was mildly irritated, so was he but I kind of thought we should just move on. We agreed I'd leave him to it and I went off to get ready for bed.
But then... he started muttering and saying I sounded like his high school english teacher who was a complete bitch. I told him not to call me a bitch and he said, "well that's what you sound like".
Now, for me, I think no matter how much you're fighting or how angry you are, there are lines you shouldn't cross with anyone, but especially your partner. And for me, being called a bitch is one of them. I think you need a baseline of respect, no matter how angry you are. Because once you cross that line and get away with it, it becomes easier and easier and it's a slippery slope from there. What does everyone else think? I don't think I'm going to change my opinion, but I am very interested to see if I am over reacting slightly.
Incidentally, he has apologised and we've made up so this is more about research on the topic than to solve this specific problem.
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BlingLovin · 10/09/2008 09:29
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