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To not want to be told to get tough with my 2 yr DS?

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Eve34 Fri 29-Aug-08 17:20:09

Was in asda today, Ds was having yet another paddy, so sat him down and quietly waited for him to calm as this usually works quickly. When a kind! member of staff told me I should be firmer with him as he will walk all over me when he is ten. I was speachless.

bethdivine Fri 29-Aug-08 17:36:37

Nope, YANBU at all IMO your child, you deal with him in the way you choose. I would imagine when he is 10 you will have a well adjusted child you can reason with.

MsHighwater Fri 29-Aug-08 17:49:39

YANBU. None of ASDA staff member's business.

Eve34 Fri 29-Aug-08 18:06:23

Thank you, was wondering if I should be more diciplind (sp) with him since then?

HonoriaGlossop Fri 29-Aug-08 18:07:28

You are dealing with him perfectly - take no notice. What a silly and unhelpful comment.

choosyfloosy Fri 29-Aug-08 18:08:03

There are lots of different ways of handling tantrums, all perfectly valid IMO. Yours sounds excellent and the way I would feel most comfortable with. The staff member could have offered you a cup of tea if she wanted to help.

ilovemydog Fri 29-Aug-08 18:09:48

It's just sooo easy to give out advice, and let's face it, if your children are going to go into meltdown, dollars to donuts it gonna be in a supermarket....

Shoegazer Fri 29-Aug-08 18:11:27

YANBU its none of her business. A lady working in Boots told me that I should put reins on DD "to control her" even though DD was doing absolutely nothing wrong. I said I didn't realise that Boots were now offering childcare advice free with every prescription hmm

DontlookatmeImshy Fri 29-Aug-08 19:08:40

YANBU. I'd probably have complained but i am in the throes of PND and PMT so possibly a bit of an over-reaction.!

Skimty Fri 29-Aug-08 20:37:53

I once bought five books from ASDA. Three for me and two for DH. Lady at the checkout asked me if I would actually read them and after I said yes (why else would I be buying them) she said she's like to see the state of my house because I couldn't have much time for housework shock

I do ahve time for housework BTW i just spend that time on Mumsnet. grin

BigBadMousey Fri 29-Aug-08 20:50:16

YANBU - whatever you do with your children there is always some bastard member of the public who wants to tell you you're doing it wrong angry angry angry

What makes these people think you are going to value their opinion anyway? - they could be a raving lunatic for all you know.

Argh! Sorry - sore point for me atm.......

minouminou Fri 29-Aug-08 20:50:21

skimty.....wow
that's a belter
what did you say in return?
oh, and OP......she was a silly cahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
this is what i do with DS (22 mo), and it's the only thing which works
what are you meant to do? beat them?

chankins Fri 29-Aug-08 20:53:35

Yes OP you dealt with it brilliantly - how dare anyone else comment ?
That annoys me so much, didn't their kids ever have tantrums fgs ?
With my kids in public at that age the best thing was to ignore, ignore, ignore, telling them off or getting 'tough' would just make it spiral into chaos !

jollydo Fri 29-Aug-08 20:56:51

YANBU - It sounds like you handled the tantrum really well, I'd be mad if someone, especially a stranger, said that. People have different attitudes to how tantrums should be dealt with (or not) but it is none of her business to tell you hers. And I think she's wrong smile.
Unfortunately if that happened to me I'm sure I'd be too shocked to think of anything clever to say so I must remember shoegazer's comment - brilliant!

TheProvincialLady Fri 29-Aug-08 20:57:32

YABU. You should have gone to M&S where you get a much better class of advice. The nice man at the checkout told me you should NEVER feed a baby at night as "It only makes them wake for it" and that he had imprisoned his wife in their bedroom to prevent her going to feed/comfort their two week old twins. Bastardangry

Lazarou Fri 29-Aug-08 20:58:06

When he is ten? HOw very specific.

BigBadMousey Fri 29-Aug-08 21:27:05

TPL Nice man....but he got it wrong - it's never feed them after midnight or they multiply (thats probably how they ended up with twins....)

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