To expect our next door neighbours to be more considerate...

[Reecey]

We have had problems with these neighbours before a couple of years ago. They seem to have no concept of the fact that our houses are joined - albeit by one wall and that every noise that they make travels straight through our house - i.e front door slamming, stomping up the stairs, friends shreiking and playing hide and seek in their house until 4 in the morning to turning their karaoke machine on at Midnight -This particular night my DH got so p*ssed off that he went round there and told them to keep the noise down. Anyway the next day the husband came round really embarressed and mortified and apologised for all the noise so we left it at that.

Fast forward to last night - she and the husband split up a few weeks ago and she has been sneaking (yes sneaking like any of us care!) her new boyfriend round and last night they decided to crash and bang round the house until 12 with the TV on full blast and then much to my delight I was treated to hearing them having sex very loudly and I dont just mean the thumping of the bed - no we had other delightful sound effects to go with that

Now AIBU to be delighted that in 6 weeks time they are going to be kept awake by my First Baby and then 4 weeks later the neighbours on the other side of them will be having their First Baby so they will be treated to a different kind of wailing in stereo???

[ClareVoiant]

Well i have to say, that if it was a problem 2 years ago, and you haven't had cause to complain til last night, then thats pretty good really. Please bear in mind that they will have the noise from both sides, not just whilst your baby is little, but until one of you moves. Ime even a crying baby is quiet compared to a tantruming toddler with elephant feet. So yab a bit u.

[mrsruffallo]

YABU- and mean spirited.
You had a problem a couple of years ago which the husband apologised for.
The next cause for complaint wasn't until last night?
I think you need to chill out- the odd outburst every couple of years doesn't warrant you wishing them ill.

[Upwind]

YABU, invest in soundproofing if it bothers you. Sounds like you lack decent sound insulation.

[Reecey]

Perhaps I am letting the hormones get to me - dont normally let these things bother me

[LadySalisbury]

YABU - I think you need to move to a house without neighbours.

[Reecey]

Fair enough AIBU

[mrsruffallo]

Pregnancy hormones can make you a bit obssessive Reecey
Just relax and rest until your baby comes

[iloverosycheeks]

Well this is bit of a hi-jack but has anyone ever installed sound-proofing as Upwind mentioned. We have moved to a lower flat and the upper has wooden floors, I can hear everything; coughing, nose-blowing, farting, never mind conversations and hobnail boot clomping about - now I know he cannot help any of this and it is just normal noise but it just feels so intrusive. I have started to look into sound proofing but would like to know how much fuss bother and expense is really involved.... anyone?

[JessJess3908]

YANBU.... My neighbours once complained to our HA then blanked me for months because i'd sat in my living room chatting to a friend over a glass of wine 'til midnight on a friday. Serious - we had no music on and there were only the 2 of us here, so how much noise could we really have made?

I am now 38 weeks PG with first baby... oh dear, how are they going to cope with that?!

[AbbaFan]

I could never go back to a semi or terraced.... love my noise free detached house

YANBU

[findtheriver]

I think you need to be realistic that a bit of occasional noise is not unreasonable - it's called living! And you're going to get it anywhere where you have neighbours. A detached house will reduce some of the noise, but it's not a cure-all. My friend moved from semi to detached partly because of neighbour problems, and now has neighbours who play music in their garden every sunny day (admittedly not frequently this summer )