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AIBU to think sod off and keep your mouth shut.

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MummyItHurts Mon 18-Aug-08 19:42:47

So we are at the beach (rain held off for a blessed while) and DS2 is in the sea with his body board, in a wet suit and having the time of his life when he comes out to me (stood in the surf) and says mummy something bit my foot! SO I try to look at his foot and he wont let me and he is now crying mummy mummy it hurts it hurts (he is 7) so a life guard comes over and ask "is it a weaver"? A whater says I. Small fish that likes to hide in the sand under water and if you are unlucky enough to tread on it it has a sting that would fell a grown man he tells me as I look all townie and daft! grin

Hot water will fix it he says so DS2 hobbles up to the life guard station crying and is given a bucket of hot water to stick said foot in to, now the life guard tells me that these stings hurt, really really hurt and putting it in the hot water will help it stop hurting quicker but will also hurt, DS2 is screaming in pain now and I was trying to calm him and tell him that the hot water would only hurt a little bit but the pain would go much faster, but being 7 and in a lot of pain he was having none of it and getting more and more upset.....

Then some woman who is sat on the beach with her family in frount of the lifeguard station sticks her head up and says " HE IS MAKING A FUSS CAUSE YOU ARE THERE, I AM SURE YOU ARE A NICE WOMAN AND ALL BUT GO AWAY AND LET THE LIFE GUARD DEAL WITH HIM" angry

Oh yes thats helpful Mrs I dont think,

I was really pissed off and she sat muttering to her family about the fuss DS2 was making.

I was about to say madam I am not a nice woman in the least when I am pissed off would you like a smack in the mouth to prove it!

DSs foot was red and swollen and painfull for the following 6 hours despite the hot water, so beware the weaver fish, and bloody stupid women sat on beaches that think the best was to deal with a hurt 7 year old is to leave him for someone else to deal with hmm

wotulookinat Mon 18-Aug-08 19:44:13


TheArmadillo Mon 18-Aug-08 19:45:11

weaver fish stings are nasty. Never had one myself but seen others get them.

yes leaving your son when he was in pain would obviously have been a great thing to do and definately would not have made him more upset that mum was leaving....not hmm

Stupid woman. Should have kept her mouth shut.

Twiglett Mon 18-Aug-08 19:45:13

gawd, she was brave

iMum Mon 18-Aug-08 19:45:17

What a total prat, and a mother! jesus as if eeven if that is her genuine opinion you would give it to someone else.
Why do this women have to stick their oiks in!!!!!

OneBoyOneGirl Mon 18-Aug-08 19:45:26

YANBU - i definately would have lost it with her.

pinkspottywellies Mon 18-Aug-08 19:46:06

Awful woman. As if you would leave your son when he was screaming hmm

Twiglett Mon 18-Aug-08 19:47:37


woman was confused really .. it is true that many children make less fuss when hurt whilst in the care of others (not their parents), but a parent walking away when child is hurt is not appropriate

still think she was bloody brave

thefortbuilder Mon 18-Aug-08 19:49:16

what a horrible woman - yanbu at all!

haven't heard of weaver fish stings for years - they were really bad when i was a kid but you don't really hear of them now. poor ds

falcon Mon 18-Aug-08 19:49:29

YANBU, I wouldn't have just thought it, I'd have said something, amazed you managed to resist the temptation.

Did she go to the Marquis De Sade school of parenting? Telling you to walk away from your child when they're frightened and in pain.angry

MummyItHurts Mon 18-Aug-08 19:50:40

Thank you ladies.
OK so he was REALLY giving it some welly but the life guard said he had had grown men make as much fuss.

I was given a leaflet to read all about this little fishy and it would seem it is more painful then a jelly fish sting.

DS1 was asking if someone was going to have to pee on DS2 foot (too much watching surfs up me thinks)

I am glad I was not over reacting to being told to go away and leave a crying in pain 7 year old with a stranger to deal with.

electra Mon 18-Aug-08 19:50:48

Crikey, what a nosy cow she was!

falcon Mon 18-Aug-08 19:51:27

And weaver fish stings are extremely painful too, far worse than a bee or wasp sting., I think I 'd have been shrieking my head off too, how she expects a 7 year old to do anything else is beyond me.

MmeLindt Mon 18-Aug-08 19:54:39

YANBU, a 7yo should not be left alone with a stranger when he is hurt and frightenend.

You should have given the old bat a slap with a smelly fish.

MummyItHurts Mon 18-Aug-08 19:56:30

If I had seen a parent in that situation I would have given a supportive look, I may have even ask if I could help at all not say leave him.
I really was beyond cross, I felt a fishwife moment coming on hmm

And we did not get ice cream as thought getting DS2 home (well to in laws) was best thing...I was so looking forward to that ice cream grin
Going to make a lovely donation to the lifeboat people though as they run the life guards and the bloke was lovely, helpful, kind and calm about it all.

falcon Mon 18-Aug-08 19:58:07

I'd have introduced her foot to the weaver fish.

MummyItHurts Mon 18-Aug-08 20:00:51

If I could have found the little fishy I would have rammed it up her arse nose grin

DontlookatmeImshy Mon 18-Aug-08 20:02:54

YANBU. I think i'd have told her to go away only not quite so politely!

Imnotok Mon 18-Aug-08 20:03:31

WTF angry I think I would have exploded at her .
There are some truly stupid people in this world .
Hope that your son is ok now .

MummyItHurts Mon 18-Aug-08 20:04:03

NOTE TO SELF....... next time make him keep deak shoes on in the sea!!

MummyItHurts Mon 18-Aug-08 20:04:29

*deck even

VeniVidiVickiQV Mon 18-Aug-08 20:08:19

Ooooh! How on earth did you contain yourself? I'd have been spitting my own venom at her blush

I'm not good at smiling politely whilst people are being fuckwits....

Your poor DS.

Ashantai Mon 18-Aug-08 20:08:23

Some people are beyond rude! I'd have told her politely to stfu!, if there is a polite way of saying that!grin

expatinscotland Mon 18-Aug-08 20:11:31

I'd have told her to mind her own business.


Poor kid.

What's so brave about being a total bitch?

beansontoast Mon 18-Aug-08 20:13:14

i can imagine my mother (a retired head teacher) involving herself unhelpfully... unsolicited. even the thought of it makes me cringe.

i would like to apologise on behalf of all the interfering matronly know alls.

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