Me and my friend had a conflict arise a few weeks ago and I guess ‘fell out’. We both have very different ways of doing things and this made us clash and both feel the other was expecting too much etc. I’ve been thinking about it non stop and when our other friend said that friend 1 was feeling quite down about it all I instantly sent a message to say I hope you’re okay, because I didn’t like the thought of her feeling sad. I got no reply, which was fine, didn’t expect it. I then sent a long message to say I’d love to sort things out especially before our other friends wedding as we are both bridesmaids and will be doing lots of stuff together for that and I’d hate there to be awkwardness that made that less than perfect for the bride. I said I was happy to meet up or talk over the phone whatever she preferred, just to clear the air. That was a week ago and no response. Not even an acknowledgment of the message. It upset me because that really just seems that she does not care at all. Even if she could have said yes we’ll talk soon but I’m not ready yet. It even made me consider dropping out of my other friends bridesmaid group as I didn’t want it to ruin that. But I’m not going to, I’m going to be civil and nice when those events happen and not let it ruin my other friendships because she is unable to communicate like an adult. I’ve come to the conclusion that if she cares that little im really not losing anything, I am sad at the loss of a long friendship but I’ve made peace with it because of her obvious lack of care - sometimes silence speaks volumes. Am I being unreasonable?
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