AIBU...My ex and fleas?

[Wilkiemini]

I’m not on good terms with my ex he treated me appalling during the last few years we were together (I’m still putting myself back together two years after we separated) however I’m much stronger mentally now without his vile daily verbal abuse!

So this is the issue... he rents a flat about half a mile away and has the children currently thurs pm to sat night weekly.

His neighbour is elderly and has a cat which is scruffy and not particularly well looked after hence i don’t think it’s treated for anything. This cat is very friendly so he lets it into his flat, and this is the second year running the kids have come home scratching and covered in flea bites :( (currently it’s the height of the flea season)

The children have said they can see the fleas jumping about when they sit on his sofa :( he has apparently used several sprays to treat the flat but the fleas remain.

He has told the children it’s my fault his flat has fleas because we own a small dog. My dog is regularly treated because I like a flea free house! My dog is also fine haired and pure white so he needs a shower every two weeks and has such fine hair I can see through it when it’s wet so also I check him regularly and he hasn’t got any fleas. The ex has told everyone who will listen that my house is full of fleas from my dog and they have ‘travelled’ to his flat on the children :(

I don’t have any bites, also my eldest son (23) who still lives at home and doesn’t visit my ex doesn’t have any bites, we have never seen any fleas in our house but as I said I still regularly treat my dog.

I’m getting really annoyed that he insists this is my fault? AIBU getting angry about this?

It’s really getting to me as he’s constantly doing things like this, recently he said I had hidden the children’s life jackets in my garage this went on for weeks and I knew they had not returned with them so I kept saying they were at his flat but he would not accept this...low and behold this week he magically found them in his flat!! No apology given!

I know I should let it slide but if I hear him say one more time it’s my dog fault or my fault about these bloody fleas I might just kick him in the nuts (in my head)

Thanks 😊 for listening 👂

[SpillTheTeaa]

Honestly this is just his way of control. This is the only way he can still get to you and it's working. People who know you and obviously yourself know it isn't your dog. Take pride in that. Do not let this pig effect you in anyway. He's trying to mentally tear you down.
The only life jacket I would have hidden would have been fucking his.

[MyOwnSummer]

He's literally letting himself get bitten on the arse by fleas in order to have something to criticize you for?

Its actually laughable and pathetic! He must be covered in bites
....sounds like he thoroughly deserves each and every one!

[CelestialSpanking]

@MyOwnSummer

He's literally letting himself get bitten on the arse by fleas in order to have something to criticize you for?

Its actually laughable and pathetic! He must be covered in bites
....sounds like he thoroughly deserves each and every one!

Exactly.

Your poor kids though having to put up with that every week because their dad has chosen this hill to die on (by flea bites).