My 75 yr old dad had a kidney removed two years ago, after RCC was found when he was treated for bladder cancer (unconnected.
It was found in March that he had mets to his aorta. He was put on Paz, to help slow growth.
He's been vomiting constantly, tired and falling over.
The oncologist sent him to A&E last week, who said it was chemo related (he's not on chemo), and they did some bloods, that is all.
The oncologist was furious with them, as he sent him to get MRI & CT scans, as he believes, from the symptoms, that it may have spread to his brain, and possibly his bowel.
Dad has had constipation this week, he cries as he cannot push, and has been given tons of different laxatives and enemas, and has 'overflow', meaning he cannot walk without it coming out.
He was supposed to have a cardiology appointment yesterday, but my sister cancelled it.
Tomorrow he's got a CT of his bowel. The nurse stressed he must attend, as has his oncologist and GP. But my sister and dad want to cancel it. I've got some mega large Tena pads, which I had from a colonoscopy and he can have them.
It's a bit of a journey, as it's an urgent scan, and he'd have to wait otherwise, I fear that if he does have a blockage, that it won't get any better until he's diagnosed...sitting next to a commode all day and being in pain is not much of a life.
AIBU?
To think he shouldn't cancel urgent scan?
TravellingInTheTardis · 25/06/2020 14:18
Am I being unreasonable?
22 votes. Final results.
POLLHe must go as off putting as it must be to have that, they can’t help him without those things 
to you X
@Magic1231 I am so sorry you are going through this with your dad
Unfortunately I cannot remember whether he had the scan or not. Though he must have done, as it was around this time he was diagnosed with primary pancreatic cancer (not a met from his kidney cancer, but a new one).
I know he did not have a blockage however, and once the meds for the kidney cancer were stopped he improved significantly. His oncologist said that the side effects from the kidney cancer were not worth it, considering that pancreatic cancer kills faster than kidney does.
Dbro was hospitalised and died shortly after this post and I'm so grateful that dad was able to spend time with him, which wouldn't have been possible if he was still taking the meds. The whole period of time is a blur, what with Covid, Dbro dying suddenly and dad's illness.
Dad had a scan in Jan 21 (regular one, due to stopping the meds) and it was found neither cancer had progressed.
In April/May, another scan found out that the pancreatic cancer had remained stable, however the kidney cancer had spread to his brain, lungs and bones (and this only happened due to the fact that his meds were stopped).
Dad died of kidney failure in July 21, just a year after my brother.
He was pretty amazing as his kidney cancer was found coincidentally at a scan for primary bladder cancer, so he had three different types of cancer, sadly the kidney was the one that spread.
I really do wish you all the best with your dad, luckily Covid is no longer stopping access to medical treatment, as it was a few years ago, so I hope you get the help your dad needs xx
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