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AIBU - self isolation parenting

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Rosin15 Sat 13-Jun-20 18:49:47

Apologies if this has been asked.

AIBU to expect ex to have DS5 now that Covid restrictions are lifting?

Good relationship pre Covid, into a routine. DS was happy.

School closed and DS stayed with me full time as dad has Chrons, so in the medium risk category. I have supported him by going to the shops etc. so he could stay put.
I was made furloghed and have never had financial support from ex, nor did he offer to make financial provisions due to the loss of my income. He earns almost double what I earn and will be working from home indefinetly.
I followed a really good home schooling routine and was generally ok with the whole situation. Dad had daily phone calls with DS but never really helped out with the homework or when I would say I need some support (as in shut up and listen to my moans) he would say "firm up".

DS has now returned to school and I need a job yet ex is refusing to return to our routine pre lockdown, which includes DS staying over 3 nights a week and school pick up/drop off.

Any help, greatly appreciated.

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Breastfeedingworries Sat 13-Jun-20 18:53:12

You need to sort out him paying. If he’s not having him anymore that’s not 50/50 when he was having him 3 nights he maybe didn’t need to pay. I’d do a Csa calculation then screen shoot it and show him. Simply put, he isn’t feeding him, using his electricity to keep him warm ect and he isn’t happy to have him. I’d make it clear that he needs to pay for him, especially now if he’s not wanting to have him. You can’t force him to have him but you can try (isn’t always successful) at making him pay for him! sad

letmethinkaboutitfornow Sat 13-Jun-20 19:00:41

Why is he not paying? I got lost there!

Rosin15 Sat 13-Jun-20 19:27:20

He never has.
I never needed it, as we had split childcare 50:50.

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Igtg Sat 13-Jun-20 19:30:56

I assume he’s not having your son due to his health conditions. Has he said when he will be prepared to do 50:50 again?

Rosin15 Sat 13-Jun-20 19:47:54


I assume he’s not having your son due to his health conditions. Has he said when he will be prepared to do 50:50 again?

Not having DS due to health condition, which is very much controllled. Just at a medium risk of Covid.
He is refusing a return to 50:50 (or return at all) due to the above.

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