Fear of losing a loved one

[sunstay]

Sorry if I've posted in the wrong place but posting in AIBU as I didn't know where else to post.

I am 23 years old and have an awful fear of losing a family member. The thought of losing my parents, brother or grandparents honestly fills me with dread. I get very upset when I think about it and I often think how awful life would be without them and that if anything did happen to them that I would struggle and really find it difficult to enjoy life again. I am so close to my parents and grandparents and have had so many amazing times with them that the thought of one day not being able to make more memories with them devastates me. I don't think about it constantly but sometimes when I'm in bed at night I get really emotional when I overthink it.

I know iabu for worrying this much about something that hasn't happened, but I was just hoping for some advice from anyone who also worries excessively like this and any tips that can help stop it

[Sunshineonacloudyday20]

I am a few years older than you and you sound exactly like me. I worry most days and think of the worst case scenario and jump to conclusions.. its exhausting isnt it?

[sunstay]

@Sunshineonacloudyday20 sorry you feel the same. It really is exhausting I've always been a very laid back person and not really a worrier, but when it comes to this it consumes me with worry and dread

[NoPointInWednesdays]

Op I’m a couple years older than you and I used to fret every day when I was your age and had done for a long time ( since I was at least 5yo ) . I spoke to a therapist in the end and there was 1 family member I particularly used to worry about and burst into tears about ( even sitting at my desk in work ) it really helped although, I’m expecting my first child ( due in less than 3 weeks ) and especially with everything going on in the world, I’ve noticed it creeping back up on me again so spoke to a therapist through my work and it’s helped a bit. Maybe try speaking to someone? Honestly, you would be so surprised how many people think like this I know I was and your not odd or unreasonable for thinking this way xx

[sunstay]

@NoPointInWednesdays thank you so much for such a kind, understanding comment. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this but also sad to hear that others struggle with worrying too. I'm glad talking to someone has made it slightly better for you, I know speaking to someone would probably make me feel better too but I'm not the type to open up about my feelings so it would be difficult. Congratulations on your pregnancy, less than 3 weeks to go that must be exciting xx