To be irritated with my friend

[Dogsaremyfavorite]

Prepared to be told IABU... but here goes... prior to official lockdown she already licked herself and family down and was quite outspoken about people going on as normal before official lockdown... including her own parents who travelled internationally to be with her brother as planned for this year.

3 Months have passed and she is not comfortable meeting up or even opening her front door for me to receive a birthday gift. Saying that she has had different service men in her home because she decided to revamp some rooms during lockdown.

Now this is where I’m irritated.... and I need to vent. She and her family have decided to travel internationally to go and see her family. Health concerns have come to light for her mother and she is fearful something will happen... so wants to travel to go and spend summer with her family, who is currently at her brothers home.

I just think this is so hypocritical considering her reaction to everyone including her own family when lockdown was enforced...

In the meantime I know I’m dealing with my own emotions because we have chosen to not travel internationally to go and see my family who have immediate health concerns as well but believe it’s the right thing given the risk we might put them in traveling and just additional exposure.

Added today there was a drive through appointment for school and all parents were given specific times to drop their kids for 10 minutes.... and all parents were instructed to wait in their vehicles for their children to maintain everyone’s safety... my friend insisted on walking her 11 year old daughter into the school and being with her when we could all clearly see our child from our vehicle. While I waited in my car.

It just seems hypocritical and I’m irritated but AIBU?

[Dogsaremyfavorite]

*locked not licked

[022828MAN]

I think, and I mean this in the nicest way, you need to lower your expectations of people and just 'do you', so to speak.
It would irk me too, for the record.

[0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h]

I couldn't get bothered about this. You need to be busier.

[StillCoughingandLaughing]

You’re irritated when she wants to be strict on lockdown. You’re irritated when she doesn’t. What WOULD make you happy?

[Aquamarine1029]

It's seems she's damned if she does, damned if she doesn't. You really need to let this go because what she chooses to do is none of your business, no matter how hypocritical it may be.

[luckylavender]

It's really her business

[FizzyPink]

I do think there are a number of people who were very quick to voice their opinions about lockdown not coming soon enough who are now looking rather hypocritical with their choices.
I have a friend who is a personal trainer who was spouting all kinds of political rubbish on Facebook about how we locked down too late and how dangerous it is to leave your house etc. I think he fancied a bit of a rest at home tbh and is now in the tricky situation of having to backtrack on his previous statements now his clients want to start up training again and he risks losing them if he doesn’t go back to work

[Dogsaremyfavorite]

@StillCoughingandLaughing

You’re irritated when she wants to be strict on lockdown. You’re irritated when she doesn’t. What WOULD make you happy?

That’s not true. I just think our words and actions need to be aligned. And I’m irritated because she won’t socialize with a close friend because of the dangers and fear..., but it seems ok to fly with your children 6 hours.... And see family who are at risk...

[Dogsaremyfavorite]

@022828MAN

I think, and I mean this in the nicest way, you need to lower your expectations of people and just 'do you', so to speak.
It would irk me too, for the record.

Yeah this seems to be similar advice I’m given with other relational challenges too.