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To feel only needed when they have nobody else?

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onestepat Sat 30-May-20 12:41:19

Does anyone else feel Like this ?
I've got two friends and one I seen every weekend,we used to go for picnics,go for food or just round to each other's houses.
She got a boyfriend 18 months ago and hardly see her.
Every weekend out with him.
The other one is just the same.
I live in a flat so no garden.
She has a house with garden and has her boyfriend in.
Yet never thinks of saying "do you wana come sit in the garden"
She knows I'm sat in by myself.
Thing is ,both of them if they never got a boyfriend would have asked me.

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onestepat Sat 30-May-20 14:36:44

Shameless bump

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hellswelshy Sat 30-May-20 14:52:31

Sorry to hear that op. What does either friend say if you ask them to meet up? Or could you suggest popping round and see what the response is? I'm definitely the initiator in a few of my friendships or groups, as in I like to suggest things to do or meet ups. But I get that it's annoying if it's one sided.

Sparklesocks Sat 30-May-20 15:21:43

Sorry to hear, it must be difficult.
To you ever ask if you can drop by and say hi in her garden or meet up in a park? What is the reaction when you try and instigate a meet up?

onestepat Sat 30-May-20 15:44:17

The standard (boyfriends name ) and I are going out or (boyfriends name ) is coming over.

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OutOfHours Sat 30-May-20 15:54:42

Do you ever contact them and ask?

Hi friend X, could really do with some company today, could we meet up for a social distancing tea and cake.

Your friends are not mind readers, so please reach out to them.

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