Namechanged for this. One of my cousins has been mentally and emotionally abusing me for years. When we were both at school, for the first 2 years, I didn't dare have friends as they would bully them and cut me off. At the same time, I was told that they didn't hang round with "children like you" so I was cut off from people until my third year when they left to go to college. Any friends I made after that point they continually attempted, and often succeeded in cutting me off from them.
Normally I try and ignore their comments, but every so often, I have snapped. At that point, I'm accused of being difficult, the rest of the family on that side gets called in to back them up (and always does). I get accused of lying when I try and explain why I've kicked off and shouted at them to leave me alone. On one occasion, they dragged me out of my house and pushed me against the wall. When I tried to push them away, I was accused of assaulting them.
I was once called horrible for losing my temper with them when they were sending texts and continually calling me when I was preparing for, on my way to and during a job interview (phone was switched off during interview). It's been worse since my parents passed away (the only family who ever sided with me) as I now have no one to turn to.
My physical and mental health has become so bad that I'm no longer able to work, which just makes things worse for me.
Their parents live on the same street and, until lock down, they were regular visitors to their parents. I've strangely enjoyed lock down as I've felt safe in a strange way, knowing they haven't been calling round. I'm normally scared to leave the house in case I run into them.
They are blocked on social media and I may have told a little white lie a while ago and said my phone was broken after I changed my number (no one on that side of the family has my new number and none of them need it).
I'm at the point now where I know that the visits to their parents are going to start up again and I'm going to be back at square one.
I can't currently afford to move away or I would have done so. I do sometimes consider just getting into the car one night and doing a runner, as unreasonable as I know it probably is.
Is it unreasonable to just want to run away from it all?
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Koelner · 28/05/2020 22:20
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