My db has severe mh problems that get worse when he drinks. It has caused huge problems including prison for hitting his wife.
He casually told me today that they had a bottle of wine between them last night.
This is always how it starts. I am practically on my knees emotionally due to other issues and just dont feel I can do what I've done the numerous times before...taking her in when hes thrown her out in a drunken temper, going there to mediate (can't atm anyway) be present for police/psych interviews, visit prison or hospitals.
I've told him that when this escalates, and it certainly will, I will no longer be there to support him or her. He is 38 but emotionally about 14. Very intelligent and manipulative and I love him to bits but I can't get over how selfish and self destructive he's being. It's 3 months since he was released from a secure unit after promising no alcohol and his wife saying she would not allow it in their home.
She has also had a telling off from me because she knows the consequences and is condoning it.
My dh has told me to forget it and let them get on with it but Im terrified. Db can be extremely violent and has tried to kill himself several times.
My other family are useless and its left to me to deal with. Sorry Im ranting but there really nothing I can do is there?
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Tillygetsit · 24/05/2020 00:44
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