So I don’t think I am BU however I can be quick to jump to my own defence and wanted to gauge some opinion.
Dh and I have been married 4 years, lived together for 12. I knew when I married him his recognition and completion of household chores and tasks was....low. He doesn’t seem to proactively notice what needs doing and I’ve ultimately accepted that for all his wonderful traits, if I want him to put a wash load on or stick the Hoover round I have to ask. Fair enough.
Now we have 7 week old DD.
She’s going through a phase of being very clingy during the day and DH is naturally much hotter than I am and we are finding his body temperature is making dd too warm if he holds her for prolonged periods, meaning I’m pinned to the sofa with her for feeding / soothing (not that I’m complaining at getting all the baby cuddles!)
Today we have been for a walk and had a picnic which was lovely. When we got home around 2pm we found a box set on sky and sat down to binge watch it. I had the baby the whole time. Dh got snacks and drinks as I asked for them. I then went and made dinner (the extent of getting a batch cooked lasagne out of the freezer but still, I made sure we ate!) and served it up, waiting to eat mine after him because I had to simultaneously feed dd.
After dinner we did her bedtime routine and as I was putting her in her snuzpod- the understanding is I go to bed with her as I then do the night feeds as he has to get up for work- I asked him to wash up the two dirty bottles of left by the sink and stick the steriliser on, and put a wash load on so I could take it out tomorrow. These jobs I anticipate would take 5 minutes at the absolute maximum. It was 9pm.
Here’s my AIBU - dh said “you know that in my evenings I just want to sit and relax and watch a bit of tv, but every night you give me a list of jobs!” He was calm and it was more said in a way of pointing it out than being nasty but am I asking too much??
To give more context the only thing I ask him to do every night is make sure the dishwasher is loaded and put on after tea and that bottles are washed. I also ask that every morning before work he takes the overnight bottles from our room to the kitchen and only if he has time to wash them up so I can sterilise them.
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WingingIt101 · 17/05/2020 21:56
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