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To think you shouldn’t be able to get away with this?

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Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 13:59:53

Sorry it’s car park, CF and supermarket related.

I was indicating and reversing into a space in a busy supermarket car park on Saturday, when suddenly a car just pulls into the space I’m reversing into. She nearly caught the back of me but I was going slowly so stopped quickly.

I was upset as my children were in the back, so I wound down my window and said (not shouting or aggressive) ‘Did you not see me?’
She stared at me and I said ‘You nearly hit my car.’ She went off on one! It’s only a fucking parking space, called me a silly cunt and threatened to come round and smack my face.

I had my five year old and 3 month old in the car, so I drove off to park elsewhere. I didn’t want to make it a thing I’m front of my 5 year old so continued as normal.

I called 101 later and the police person advised there was no point reporting it, nothing would be done and in future not to approach people who behave like that?! Just let it go....

But what can I do? People shouldn’t be able to behave like this and I’m annoyed.

Before anyone asks I did not shout, I did not ask for the parking space and yes it was clear I was parking as the car directly behind me was waiting for me to reverse in, she cut across.

Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 14:09:16

Those voting YABU, you think her language and threats were acceptable?

IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory Mon 18-Nov-19 14:11:00

Yes she was a dick, absolutely, but what consequences do you want to impose on parking space stealers? confused I mean really?

apacketofcrisps Mon 18-Nov-19 14:12:05

What do you expect 101 to do? Arrest her for being rude?!

marvellousnightforamooncup Mon 18-Nov-19 14:13:37

She's an arse but there's nothing you can do except get over it.

PolPotNoodle Mon 18-Nov-19 14:15:36

I voted YABU because you called the police to report her for it. She was nasty but didn't commit a crime (before anyone mentions the crime of threatening, abusive and insulting behaviour, this isn't an example of that offence) so you wasted the police's time because you were upset.

She was undoubtedly vile and offensive but it wasnt a police matter. Next time call her a cunt back and get on with your day.

Hwory Mon 18-Nov-19 14:15:49


‘called me a silly cunt and threatened to come round and smack my face.’

Pretty sure it’s illegal to threaten to assault someone.

Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 14:16:18

It’s not about the space @IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory, it’s the foul language and violent threats.

Winterdaysarehere Mon 18-Nov-19 14:17:59

I reported such a twat actually hit my car in a car park. Still no action taken.
Was advised to claim via insurance. Mine!! I had a witness but he was only 10 (with his dm who didn't see) and confirmed on shop cctv also...

Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 14:18:09

@PolPotNoodle I suppose you are right, but if someone did this in front of a police person I doubt they would ignore it.

apacketofcrisps Mon 18-Nov-19 14:18:12

Do you really think the police have the resources to find this woman to tell her off for “threatening” you? Je-sus

FiveFarthings Mon 18-Nov-19 14:18:32

Well she’s not just being rude is she, she’s using foul and disgusting language in a public place (a public order offence) and also using threatening language (again another public order offence). I’m surprised that people just think language like that is ‘rude’.

I agree with you OP, no people shouldn’t be able to get away with it but with such a stretched police service where people can’t even get an officer to come round when they’ve been burgled or assaulted, this sort of thing is likely to be very low on their priorities. It’s been reported (did you get her reg number so she can be identified?) so try and move on and don’t let it get to you. Unfortunately people are just arseholes and there’s nothing you can do about that!

MrsMaiselsMuff Mon 18-Nov-19 14:18:51

Police resources have been cut to the bone. Do you honestly think they have the time to deal with this?

Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 14:21:30

I thought it might be worth reporting so if the registration comes up again it is already logged.
I wasn’t expecting them to do anything other than log it really.
I wasn’t expecting them to come out or anything.

OlaEliza Mon 18-Nov-19 14:22:59

Yes she was a dick, absolutely, but what consequences do you want to impose on parking space stealers?  I mean really?

Blocking them in should be sufficient.

Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 14:23:46

@Winterdaysarehere sorry to hear that, I should count my chickens that she didn’t actually hit me. I’m not sure of what further language she could have used then....

FiveFarthings Mon 18-Nov-19 14:24:15

Ignore what PolPotNoddle said, as a police officer I can tell you that she did commit the offence of threatening, abusive and insulting language. I’d like to see what PolPotNoodle thinks is threatening or abusive and insulting if calling someone a cunt and threatening to assault them isn’t!

fluffedupferretonsteroids Mon 18-Nov-19 14:25:49

Making someone feel like they are in danger is literally assault, so yeah it's fine that you called the police if you felt like you could get hurt. It's a shame they dont have the resources to help, as wheres the line what's enough for them to help.
Sorry you had such an ordeal with your kids in the car and hope you're feeling better.

GiveHerHellFromUs Mon 18-Nov-19 14:27:10

She was an idiot but why on earth would you confront someone like that when you have your children in the car?

22Giraffes Mon 18-Nov-19 14:28:39

YABU to call 101. Yea it was a dick move on her part but let it go.

Shahlalala Mon 18-Nov-19 14:29:32

Well I didn’t know she was aggressive when I asked if she hadn’t seen me.
If I made a mistake driving I would apologise if called up on it.

Pussinboots25 Mon 18-Nov-19 14:29:49

She sounds like a total dick. Someone did this to me last week while in a hospital car park I couldn’t believe people could be so rude. I knocked on the mans window and asked if he saw me about to go into the space and he said ‘my wife’s dying’... obviously very sad but I was also at the hospital for upsetting circumstances, doesn’t make it acceptable. Hope you’re ok, x

IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory Mon 18-Nov-19 14:30:40

Blocking them in should be sufficient.

Agreed, but I can’t see it being made official supermarket policy grin

GiveHerHellFromUs Mon 18-Nov-19 14:31:07

There were going to be two responses and neither of them would have meant you got the space so I don't understand why you'd even bother to question her, is my point.

IWorkAtTheCheescakeFactory Mon 18-Nov-19 14:32:07

The threat to smack you was not okay and actually in this day and age when women are being arrested for saying men aren’t women on twitter I don’t see why you shouldn’t expect a police response for a physical threat being made.

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