AIBU to decline an invite to my sister's wedding?

Laietta · 2019-07-21 07:32:41

My sister and I have never been close and now we live far from each other so contact is basically limited to a whatsapp message on special occassions. She has invited us (me, partner and baby) to her wedding in the caribbean next year at a cost of around £10,000 per person which is money we just don't have. My sister got upset when I told her we wouldn't be able to attend and my parents offered to pay for us to go to appease my sister but I declined the offer as I don't feel comfortable taking that much money from my parents and even if I would take the money from my parents I would rather put it towards a house than a 2 week holiday. I feel that if it's that important to my sister that everyone can attend her wedding then she should have picked somewhere more affordable or she should be offering to cover part of the costs for the guests. My sister earns minimum wage but her future husband is a high earner so she lives a life of luxury without having to work for it and I feel like because of this her view of money is distorted and she thinks that everyone can afford the lifestyle that she has. Is it unreasonable of me to turn down the invitation and my parents' offer to pay for us to go?

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