To say something to this mum re. early weaning?

[Greywalls12]

Was at a baby class today, when one mum mentioned that she'd started giving her 15 week old baby rice.
No one said anything, but their were quite a few disapproving looks.

AIBU to say it has no nutritional value and she could actually be doing her child harm by weaning before 17 weeks?

Or is that incredibly rude and should stop being miss judgy pants?

I don't actually think she would care as she ignores most guidelines e.g. has baby in own room and puts on front to sleep etc.

[Greywalls12]

Oh and she stated her reason to be because she's feeding more in the day and woke once at night!

[fieldsofclover]

I wouldn’t say anything

[herculepoirot2]

No. The child isn’t a newborn and you are talking about an advisory guideline, not some sort of law. The nutritional value of baby rice is none of your business when it comes to her child.

[Jellybean100]

Nope mind your own business. People will do what they like, it’s more than likely she knows the advice and I’m presuming she has a health visitor who talks to her about weaning. Unless you’re very friendly with her I’d say nothing

[Passthecherrycoke]

I wouldn’t bother, because she probably doesn’t really care what you think if you know what i mean? She must know the guidelines and has chosen to ignore them

[Greywalls12]

I am quite friendly with her, and she's declined all health visitor checks etc, and has said she hasn't seen anyone over advice, just saw it in the shop and thought she'd try it

[Littlebird88]

dont say anything. guidelines are guides.
babies are different

[herculepoirot2]

If she’s decline HV advice, she doesn’t want yours, does she?

[Greywalls12]

@Passthecherrycoke this was my thought too

[SoyDora]

As you said, she probably won’t care anyway. She doesn’t sound like the type to take advice. So why say anything?

[Greywalls12]

@herculepoirot2 true

[Pinktinker]

I wouldn’t bother because she probably won’t listen but this is shit parenting, especially putting her baby on its front to sleep .

[Alsohuman]

Not your business. Fourteen days before the rules say it’s OK? So what?

[Soubriquet]

I can see why you would want to but I wouldn’t

I had to put ds to sleep on his tummy sometimes too but it was the only way he would sleep.

[ParadiseLaundry]

I wouldn't say anything and let her get on with it.

Although I did see a video a friend put on Facebook where she was giving her eight week old baby mashed potato and gravy and I'm afraid I did judge the fuck out of her.

[MrsGrannyWeatherwax]

Honestly, it just would come across as judgemental and patronising.

I personally feel it’s slightly early but we went slightly before the 6months guidelines anyway and a friend constantly offered her opinion. I didn’t want or ask for opinion so it’s put me off her a lot.

[Greywalls12]

@ParadiseLaundry that's shocking

[IHaveBrilloHair]

It's 15 weeks and baby rice, honestly leave her be.

[MuddlingMackem]

@Pinktinker Thu 18-Jul-19 18:07:13
I wouldn’t bother because she probably won’t listen but this is shit parenting, especially putting her baby on its front to sleep

My youngest wouldn't sleep unless she was on her front. We just got a suitable baby monitor.

And OP. neither of mine lasted until four months for solids, they needed more than just milk. We used baby rice for the eldest, but skipped it and went straight for the packet cereals (like porridge) with the youngest.

[PastTippingPoint]

My SIL suggested this for my DD who was a terrible sleeper, it was what she'd done for her 2 who slept through from 6 weeks! I just changed the conversation and ignored the advice. If she's not keen on HV advice she won't be keen on yours either!

[PQ77]

I’d let it slide about the baby rice but I couldn’t hold my tongue about front sleeping. That’s life or death (melodramatic I know but it’s a different category iyswim!)

[Pinktinker]

Eurgh, I’d rather deal without sleep than ever risk my baby dying from SIDS.

[IHaveBrilloHair]

My HV told me to give Dd baby rice and then pureed veg etc at 16 weeks, it wasn't kind advice, she said that I had to as Dd was small.
The woman scared the living daylights out of me so I did what she said.
All was well, and I really don't think a bit of mush is harmful at that age but honestly, not all NHS staff stuck to the guidelines, my HV certainly didn't.

[NoSauce]

No don’t say anything. I’d hazard a guess she knows what the guidelines are and has chose not to go with them. I don’t think she’d stop feeding him it but it would probably cause you to look like the interfering bad guy.

[Alsohuman]

Forty years ago we were told to put our babies to sleep on their tummies. It was, in any event, the only way mine would sleep.