I'm truly not sure if I was too harsh this evening or not. I don't have many RL friends who are Mums so I sometimes feel I loose perspective on how to do things. I'd appreciate some honest opinions.
DS is 3. He's a good boy. He's usually very good at going to bed but he's going through a bit of a patch at the moment.
DH is not here tonight. I'm on my own. I put him to bed at 7:15. First he wanted socks on. I put them on. Then he wanted water. I got him water. Then he wanted a wee - wee. I took him to the toilet. I tucked him up again and told him I was going for a shower. I thought he was settling. Straight when I got out, he was up and complaining he was hungry. I told him that night time wasn't a time for eating and took him back to bed. He kept getting up and complaining. I kept calmly telling him no and putting him back to bed. I decided to try going downstairs to see if he would settle if I was a bit further away. He just stood at the top of the stairs shouting, "I'm hungry" and "Mummy, Mummy". He was swinging on the stair gate. I could hear it creaking so I went up and shut it and said "Back to bed" one more time. Then I just stayed downstairs. I decided I'd just leave him to settle. He basically tantrumed/cried and shouted my name for an hour. He said all sorts:
"I'm hungry"
"I'm cold"
"I'm hot"
"I need a tissue" etc. etc.
At the beginning, I was thinking that he would settle soon. As time went on, I was thinking that if I went up, it would just show him he could get his own way so he'd make a habit of it so I just sat there and cried. Finally, after an hour (at about 9pm) he stopped crying and said, "Mummy, it's night time. You should be in your bed" in a matter of fact and calm manor, before climbing into bed and falling asleep.
I feel horrid and guilty. So, what do you think? Was I too harsh?
AIBU?
to leave DS crying for an hour
Notsosuremummy · 28/07/2007 22:21
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SunnyNights · 09/11/2022 22:42
Given the child is now around 18 I'm assuming this issue has passed...
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