So, I have a fab relationship with (almost) MIL (will use MIL as easier). She comes and stays when DP is away, I go to hers with DS. It's all very lovely and I feel very lucky to have such a lovely woman as a Mil.
However, DP has been married before, to DSS DM. Not an issue. She left when DSS was young. Was vile to DP and stopped contact etc etc. Fwiw DP is hands down the most genuinely lovely, level headed guy you'd ever meet. Never raises his voice, never angry, selfish etc etc. Anyhow, DSS Mum and I get on, things are great between the our of us and DP and DP ex co parenting is awesome. Have no issues with any of it etc.
But to the point, mil constantly goes on about DP ex. They live close by which is great as she sees DSS lots. Whilst we live an hour away so don't see her as much. It's always about poor DP ex, oh I was with DP ex for such and such, oh I spoke to DP ex, DP ex is going back to work already after a baby. All that malarkey.
I'm thrilled she has a good relationship with DP Ex for DSS sake. It's great that they're able to be involved after co tact was stopped etc and things were horrid for so long. But I just can't stand this constant going on about her. I know it's just for conversation's sake. My DP had a word with her a while back without me knowing and she seems to have started again only it's worse this time.
She made s comment the other day that was making a swipe at us for not letting us know plans sooner as she'd heard from DP ex what was happening (mother's day related so wanted to surprise her). But she referred to her as ex DIL. It really hurt me. It seemed like it was said to hurt me. DP assured me it wasn't and I can understand it to a point. But argh I'm just so fed up of hearing all about it.
AIBU, and if not, should DP have a word as he doesn't like hearing about her all the time either.
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Dera1234 · 12/04/2019 13:28
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