To cut a long story short, he announced at short notice that he had to go to his other home (think Ireland/Scotland) to do some house stuff for a few days & invited me to go up next week.
I said I would think about it, as I don’t want to just drop everything whenever he feels like taking off. It wasn’t clear how long he would go for, but it sounded like about a week.
Today he hinted at staying longer - or at least at wanting the chance to stay longer, I don’t know how long but it must be less than a month.
It’s really important to my own well-being that I’m not picked up & dropped whenever it suits any man (history of neglect & cPTSD myself). I suggested I go up once he decides how long he will stay, so we can do the 10 hour drive back down together. Has added perk of splitting the driving.
He said he will think about it.
Am I right to keep this boundary? I know PTSD can make people appear selfish & I know he doesn’t always mean to act without consideration - in this case, I guess he has considered me. I just feel cruel for not leaping on the next flight ASAP...
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ClearSky40 · 10/04/2019 02:34
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