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AIBU?

To take breastfed baby to the ivy ?

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dontfollowmeimlosttoo · 02/04/2019 09:57

Hi ,

My baby is 5 weeks old , breastfeeding has been tough for us from the beginning ! Poor latch , cracked nipples etc anyway found out he had posterior tongue tie , division done last week . Latch still hit and miss feeds can be hard ( he slips off ). Anyway we will keep going been assured it's gets better ..

What I find funny is family member fully aware of this and know my struggles at feeding in public ( constantly re latching whole boob out ) so am only really going to groups or places with parent room to feed private.

Anyway she asked me if I would like to go to the ivy for breakfast it seems abit random as baby will only be 7 weeks . Would you guys go and hope for a private room ?

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Nanny0gg · 02/04/2019 09:58

Not a chance!

Wont exactly be a relaxing meal

Booboostwo · 02/04/2019 09:59

This is a very personal choice. I breastfed in public so went to various restaurants, cafes, etc with both DCs, however if you don’t feel comfortable then don’t do it.

Can you give them a call and ask them if there is a choice of a private room?

DioneTheDiabolist · 02/04/2019 10:00

I'd definitely go, but I wouldn't wing it in the hope they have a private room. I'd phone ahead and confirm and if not, request a table that would afford you some privacy.

ShitAtScarbble · 02/04/2019 10:00

Have you called them to find out IF they have a private room? Wouldn't that be your starting point?

TheQueef · 02/04/2019 10:00

With their prices I would request a room.

daphine2004 · 02/04/2019 10:01

What a lovely treat but I do understand your concerns. You might find it useful to give them a call and see what can be accommodated/facilities are available.

RiddleyW · 02/04/2019 10:01

Makes no difference that it's the Ivy - it isn't actually particularly stuffy. The question is are you happy to feed in public generally and will you enjoy yourself.

dontfollowmeimlosttoo · 02/04/2019 10:01

I think I just find it bizarre she even asked me and wondered if I was being unreasonable . I just think no one seems to understand when you tell them your struggling still want to visit etc and ur there with ur tit out all day

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SinkGirl · 02/04/2019 10:02

I would never. I’d be so worried about the baby crying and disturbing people who are paying exorbitant sums for their breakfast - I struggled enough taking my twins into cafes when they were tiny as I know how annoyed some people get with babies crying.

Cheeserton · 02/04/2019 10:03

Good suggestion to call and ask. The place will clearly be able to advise you better than randoms from MN.

SummerHouse · 02/04/2019 10:04

I would rather not take a baby there anyway. Full respect to those who would and equally full respect to those who would breastfeed there with a tricky latch and a full boob out. I just think it would be stressful when going to the ivy should be the opposite. The purpose is defeated. congratulations on you baby. Hope the feeding gets easier. Just make like as easy as possible around it.

MrsDrudge · 02/04/2019 10:04

Which branch are you going to? The Ivy in Birmingham has some discreet booth type tables around the perimeter (rather than exposed table in the middle of the restaurant). You might feel comfortable sitting somewhere like this.
I think I’d call or email the restaurant and make your decision based on their reply.
How lovely to be offered such a treat!!

HardofCleaning · 02/04/2019 10:07

I wouldn't bother personally it sounds stressful. I'd rather buy loads of delicious smoked salmon etc and have a lovely brunch at home where I can relax..

lalafafa · 02/04/2019 10:09

unless you're going to the original Ivy in Covent garden you'll be packed in on tiny tables, the only place will be a loo

dontfollowmeimlosttoo · 02/04/2019 10:10

Birmingham

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whitesoxx · 02/04/2019 10:13

I'd go but wouldn't take the baby. Can someone else take baby for a stroll around the shops/park etc while you have breakfast?

I don't think it's "bizarre" that your friend asked you. Life doesn't just stop (although it can feel like that) people have babies all the time.

Brummiegirl15 · 02/04/2019 10:14

I’ve taken my baby to the Ivy in Birmingham and breastfed her. Absolutely no problem.

Don’t be put off by the fact it’s the Ivy, I love it and it’s really relaxed and depending when you go there are often loads of families (obviously not Saturday night)

They won’t have a dedicated parents room, so your options are to either feed at the table or go and sit in the bar and feed.

What do YOU want to do? Don’t feel you can’t bf there because it’s the Ivy. It’s no different to anywhere else and it’s really relaxed and unstuffy. If you want to go, then go and see how you get on. Perhaps ask in advance for a table with a bit of privacy.

But please don’t feel for a second that you can’t breastfeed in the restaurant. If you don’t want to, that’s different

Go and enjoy

dontfollowmeimlosttoo · 02/04/2019 10:15

@whitesoxx how will baby be fed ?

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dontfollowmeimlosttoo · 02/04/2019 10:16

@Brummiegirl15 I'd b ok if breastfeeding was easier but struggling at the min baby in latching crying re latching him etc

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SinkGirl · 02/04/2019 10:18

In that case I’d ask if you could postpone a few months

2rachtint · 02/04/2019 10:19

I don't think it is bizarre she asked you- but equally it's fine to say you're not ready yet but would love to once you have got the hand of breastfeeding more. Sounds like you're doing a great job!

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 02/04/2019 10:20

I wouldn't as I don't think it would be fair on the other patrons having their breakfasts disturbed by a newborn trying to latch.

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LL83 · 02/04/2019 10:21

Sounds like you will find it stressful so I would postpone.

WonkyDonk87 · 02/04/2019 10:21

Not just for the Ivy (if you do decide to go), but can I suggest a decent feeding scarf if you're anxious feeding in public? I was given one by my sister which I initially cast aside thinking I wouldn't use it, but have struggled recently with a 7 week old who fusses and flings herself off halfway through 🙄 and I wound up feeling very stressed. I bought another one (which is pretty much a stretchy big snood type affair, but a better design and more coverage) from the expensive-but-naice-baby-shop and it's amazing. So much easier. I had a meal out and fed at a very cramped table with my very awkward brother this week and it made it so much easier.

KaliforniaDreamz · 02/04/2019 10:25

Not while you're still establishing breastdeeding, no.
I struggled for 12 weeks with my first baby. (If it's any consolation the following 2 were a breeze.)
Do yourself a favour and stay home where you're comfortbale - ask her to come to you with pastries? x

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