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AIBU?

To find this creepy?

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Ella1980 · 30/03/2019 23:17

So my ex-husband and I have been separated for five years, divorced for two. He messages me tonight referring to me as my name that I had on a dating website two years after I split from him! Is this creepy or what?!! He's proper unhinged.

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DaisyDuvetDays · 31/03/2019 00:07

What was the point of his message? Or just hello Ella.
Eek maybe he's on mumsnet too

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Ella1980 · 31/03/2019 00:15

It wasn't Ella on there! He hates the thought of me being with another man I think. Well tough luck mate, I've been with a few since I've left you (all nicer than you, even the ghoster) and I'm getting married next year! #jogon!

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PregnantSea · 31/03/2019 02:32

I would just reply saying "no thanks".

What a dickhead. Sounds like you're well shot of him OP

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Yekrats · 31/03/2019 03:16

Less creepy, more a sign that he hasn't moved on and is still very much interested in you and your activities.

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poglets · 31/03/2019 03:25

Don't reply. It will annoy him.

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Smotheroffive · 31/03/2019 03:32

Yes, odd, especially as was from long time ago. Just completely ghost him, only way.

Also can you block? Any chance he might have thought he was a potential dating lead? Eerrgh!

Yeah, ignore it.

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Boredgiraffes · 31/03/2019 03:36

Do you have children together? If not why does he still have your number?

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SalmonFishing · 31/03/2019 03:47

So he's been tracking you on dating websites years after you've broken up and then texts you addressing you by your dating profile name from three years ago? Yes, that's creepy.

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Boredgiraffes · 31/03/2019 03:51

Or make believe?

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Monty27 · 31/03/2019 04:19

@ella @daisy those crossed wires made me smile 😊
OP he's a weirdo.
Good luck for the future

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DarkDarkNight · 31/03/2019 04:24

Eurgh what a weirdo. Just letting you know he’s seen your profile? Trying to embarrass you? extremely creepy and weird.

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Treacle200 · 31/03/2019 08:31

Did he text for a reason? If he did, I would just respond and completely ignore the name thing. He is looking for a reaction, don't give him one.

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Ella1980 · 31/03/2019 08:31

Yes we have two boys together. I found it a bit disturbing as he literally went MAD when I left him. He's a controller so couldn't deal with the fact I'd disobeyed him.

I feel sorry for his gf! He's probably checking up on her too (she's 26 and he's 44, he's loaded she's unemployed etc so he'll be controlling her in the same way no doubt). I just hope she's allowed out of the house after 10pm as I never was 😢