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AIBU?

To ask for teachers support

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Rapunzel13 · 30/03/2019 14:45

A question for most, including teachers who will know if this is asking too much. sorry for the long post

AIBU to ask my childs teacher to fill in a little booklet everyday with either a smiley, neutral or sad face regarding listening and concentrating at school. Ive been told in the recent parents evening that although this has improved greatly recently (it was quite bad last year) there's still some room for improvement

I have noticed the issue at home with simple tasks such as getting dressed and being sidetracked on tasks such as taking 50 minutes to put on clothes in the morning and so devised a reward chart for simple tasks and so far it is working amazingly.

The teachers dont have any kind of booklet for behaviour or general comments booklets that go home other than a reading log due to the high amount of time this would take for every child in the class and I understand this completely but I was wondering if IABU to print of a simple booklet and ask the teacher to put a smiley face for the day so I can add it to the rewards chart to try encourage the behaviour at school too or should I just butt out and let them deal with it at school as my BIL has said

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noblegiraffe · 30/03/2019 14:48

Do they not already have some sort of behaviour chart in the classroom that the kids move up and down?

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Jackshouse · 30/03/2019 14:48

I would go and talk to the teacher about it. I’m a secondary teacher and as a form tutor I would put a child in report with simple targets for a week or 2 at most. It is something that works for a short space of time and the report can and should only be used for a short amount of time.

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OwlinaTree · 30/03/2019 14:49

My team would probably help you with this, especially if we had raised concentration as an issue.

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Rapunzel13 · 30/03/2019 14:53

They have a special book for special behaviour . I think one person is nominated for good behaviour once a week but nothing else if its not a major issue they dont speak about it until parents evening. My child is very bright and helpful but a bit "always on the go" just distracted lacks concentration sometimes (dont we all :')). Its not a major concern anymore but has been brought up as "getting better" again this time so was wondering if i could help them as its working well at home the past week

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OnlyYellowRoses · 30/03/2019 14:56

We had something similar with my DS when he was in year 1. He had issues with concentration and completing work in time frames they wanted. His teacher agreed to do a little book where each day he got a tick or a cross and if he got all 5 days in a week ticked then we bought him a small treat (kinder egg/pot of slime) on a Friday afternoon. Worked really well

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Angelicinnocent · 30/03/2019 14:58

I did this with ds in primary. Bought a cheap notebook and rubber banded it open on the correct page each week. Teacher gave Mark's out of 5 for concentration each day. It worked well and the teacher appreciated a combined effort.

Would suggest just asking to do it for a month though.

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ArmchairTraveller · 30/03/2019 15:02

How old is the child? I’ve done this a number of times, but the older they are, the more they seem to mind. What works at home may not do as well in a more public setting, however discreet the teacher tries to be. Make sure you discuss it with your child before you try it.

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Wolfiefan · 30/03/2019 15:02

I wouldn’t. What age though?
I would expect a teacher to be able to implement their own school’s policy. And if it’s improving as things stand then why do this?

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Rapunzel13 · 30/03/2019 15:06

Its yr 1. And although its improving its still being noticed since the last parents evening in October. I just want her to be happy and do as well as she can and the concentrating and listening at home in 1 week has improved so much I cant explain so i wondered if it would help the teacher. Shes my first and only so maybe im being over the top.

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Rapunzel13 · 30/03/2019 15:07

Maybe I'll just approach a thumbs up at the door if she has done well that day .

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VashtaNerada · 30/03/2019 15:09

Are you not able to do a verbal handover? Does he attend after-school club? As a teacher I’m always happy to give feedback at the end of the day but I’m not sure how I’d feel about a booklet to be honest.

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NWQM · 30/03/2019 15:12

We had something similar with our daughter but it waned quite quickly as the teacher didn't bother. You'd need them totally signed up.

We do however do it at my school and I think it helps as I'm a big fan of the reward chart system. I think though that it would work best though if it is targeted. Personally I'd be suggesting say a week of concentrating during say 'carpet time' when they do their numeracy. Maybe start by picking a subject he does like because this is about practising the skill of showing attention not really anything about the subject. As you say its working in the morning for something relatively short & contained. Perhaps don't over phase him by him having to concentrate for the whole day. It makes it harder for the teacher or TA to judge if I'm honest too.

Personally I would say that he gets a sticker if he does it. Having three categories is a little complicated and I'm not sure what you'd achieve with that. Does he get half a tick on his reward chart for neutral or......hopefully you see what I mean. He has a book and teacher gives a sticker if he does concentrate.

Teacher can always give bonus stickers if he concentrates at other times. You can build it up so that he has to concentrate in literacy as well to get the sticker.

I'd avoid the negative sad face. If his behaviour is so disruptive to his or others learning that it would be a sad face then they should have strategies in place to deal with that. Let them deal with it there and then. It's more effective immediately than you trying to talk to him later.

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CalamityJune · 30/03/2019 15:17

As a teacher, i think they'd be better off considering what interests your son and trying to get him to enjoy what he is doing.

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Rapunzel13 · 30/03/2019 15:20

Thanks everyone
I work rota shifts and my partner works flexi so we are lucky enought to pick her up daily so I think verbally will probably be better
And NVQM thank you thats extremely helpful. Ill avoid the booklet I think and its been noted its mainly a carpet time issue like you said so well concentrate on just that for now and maybe ask for a quick nod if they think she deserves the tick for that day for carpet time which is when others can be most disturbed too.
Thanks everyone