Posting for thoughts after a blazing row with (D)H over this. He consistently refuses to get a Facebook account 'on principle' because he doesn't agree with anything the company stands for. Totally reasonable, integrity's a good character trait, etc etc.
But AI really being so VVVVVU (as he seems to think I am) to tell him I'm done with him regularly giving me messages to pass on via MY Facebook account to his friends, relatives, adult daughter, milkman's cat, Old Uncle Tom Cobbley And All (and then expecting me to relay all the return messages, of course) because it saves him the bother of talking to people himself??! He has these people's email addresses, he has their phone numbers. As far as I'm concerned it's plain bone idle of him, not to mention hypocritical (which is especially rich as 'hypocrite' is an accusation that routinely gets thrown at me during arguments). All he ever wants to do when he's not at work is slump on the sofa reading, spending zero time communicating with anyone - are you kidding me, that would eat up WAY too much of his precious reading time. And anyway, why bother when good old GG's willing to sell her soul to Facebook so he doesn't have to... 
I'm maybe being a tad petty, I can live with that, but I'm so sick of the sheer hypocrisy, and of being expected to function as some sort of traffic warden of cyber-two-way-traffic, especially as guess who cops the flak if I happen to misinterpret anything and pass it on incorrectly? Any road out, I've told him that barring urgent messages (e.g. about someone's health/that someone's died or similar) the Facebook Chinese Whispers game has played out its last round.
AIBU?
AIBU?
Being used as a Facebook 'go-between'
TheGigglingGazelle · 29/03/2019 21:49
I really hope this isn't one of those threads that start off describing something really innocuous and ends up revealing that if you ever disagree with your DH he gets abusive and you're scared of him...
No, we mostly have a really good marriage actually, with odd blips when he behaves as a petulant child and I treat him accordingly. 
If he's big on principles and feels Facebook goes against what he stands for and therefore won't create an account on principle - fair enough.
Make your own and tell him on principal you're not carrying on with this shit and nonsense.
If he really hates Facebook and what it stands for he wouldn't or shouldn't be trying to cheat his way and get around his own fucking rules and principles through you what's that about??!
He sounds like one of those part-time "try to be" vegans shouting down anyone and everyone then rock in a pair of Doc Martens.
As the great Yoda once said Do... or do not. There is no try
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