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BlinkingBrexit Thu 28-Mar-19 18:05:43

This may be TMI but I am a bit upset and looking for reassurance ! After a few near misses lately have actually just full on wet myself in a public place . I am mortified - notbheard of anyone else having done it so just need a hand hold to tell me I am not the only one. For background, 41 , 3 children and never done it before and I had only gone for a wee 20 minutes before sad

SnowdropsiUnderTrees Thu 28-Mar-19 22:36:55

Tena lady. I have used them since my late 30's. People seem very anti them but I find them brilliant. Not everyone wants medication, physio or surgery.

BlinkingBrexit Thu 28-Mar-19 22:31:04

Thank you for the brilliant advice Jent13c - lots of food for thought! And I promise to you all there is nothing untoward about my post and I feel heaps better knowing it's more common than I thought - I appreciate each and every one of your posts and stories xx thank you all for taking the time to reply xx thank you flowers

Crossfitgirl Thu 28-Mar-19 21:43:27

Try the NHS app "squeezy". It's a couple of quid but handy for pelvic floor exercises. And it's not normal to wet yourself, but it's not unusual and it's totally treatable! Glad you're going to see the GP OP. Xxx

Jent13c Thu 28-Mar-19 21:20:02

I know you are so worried but there is SO much that can be done about it. Great idea to see doc or nurse. In my area it is the district nurses that complete continence assessments for you to get incontinence products. They are experts and the plan of care is to get you back to continence, not just to contain the accidents.
Some top tips;
1. Do NOT limit your fluid intake on your own say. You need to be drinking at least 1.2 litres a day. Reducing this will make your urine more concentrated which can irritate the bladder and can also put you more at risk of UTI. It will make you constipated.
2. Check your bowel habits. If you are constipated this will put pressure on your bladder.
3. Reduce caffeine. It is a bladder irritant. Try sticking to water to see if that is affecting things. Smoking is also irritant
4. Get your urine tested...?UTI
5. Try and get an internal exam. You could have issues related to child birth which were never picked up or issues related to hormone changes with menopause.

There are SO many options for you and so many tests that can be done to see why this is happening for you. I know it's hard to approach healthcare professionals with an 'embarrassing illness' but it would be so much better than having to wear pads all the time.

snowball28 Thu 28-Mar-19 21:03:42

I went through a stage of this when I was only a teen, about 2 years. And now it’s happening again (31 weeks with no 3) GP can help, pop in and visit them. It’s normal and way more common than you think x

DailyMailFail101 Thu 28-Mar-19 21:01:43

Oh don’t be embarrassed,I used to wet my self regularly until I had Botox injections into my bladder, it caused my bladder muscles to strengthen (so much I can’t pee now I self catheterise) go to your GP there’s loads of options out there!

Supersimpkin Thu 28-Mar-19 20:55:13

I don't know anyone who hasn't wet themselves. Men do it too.

WinkysTeatowel Thu 28-Mar-19 20:53:34

I would recommend the NHS Squeezy app for a good Pelvic Floor Exercise routine including reminders.

Nomorepies Thu 28-Mar-19 20:41:55

OP this can happen with a water infection- easily fixed with anti- biotics. See your GP

Haworthia Thu 28-Mar-19 20:40:21

It doesn’t affect anyone here that some sicko is pulling his plonker behind a computer screen and it shouldn’t mean that women are put off posting on an anonymous forum for help and advice.


It’s NOT OK that Mumsnet is teeming with perverts who encourage women to feed their fetish by providing anecdotes under the guise of giving advice.

You might be totally comfortable with men wanking over your posts but I am not.

BlueMerchant Thu 28-Mar-19 20:36:27

I once did it at a posh wedding. It was actually trickling down my bare legs I to my sandals. Had to stuff my underwear with loo roll and sit soggy through the disco.

JustTwoMoreSecs Thu 28-Mar-19 20:33:46

Posted too soon, I am talking full on weeing, puddle on the floor etc. I ran inside to get changed and went straight out to clean the floor but DH had done it already.
He had clear instructions never to mention it (6y ago, so far so good)
Anyway, I hope it makes you feel better, it happens!

JustTwoMoreSecs Thu 28-Mar-19 20:27:58

OP, I’ll tell you my shameful secret, I once weed myself in the elevator back to my flat. DH was with me blush

eightytwenty Thu 28-Mar-19 20:13:42

gussiegrips - am I right that this is your ‘bag’?

BlinkingBrexit Thu 28-Mar-19 20:08:56

Oh my life that Scottish lady is BRILLIANT! How awesome is she ! Made me laugh out loud and love the way she says pish grinand I could actually cry at the relief at reading your stories - thank you all so much for taking the time to post flowers.

Pinotjo Thu 28-Mar-19 19:21:31

Welcome to my world! I dare not laugh, sneeze or cough. While you wait to see your GP do your pelvic floor exercises. I wet myself in town whilst wearing light blue jeans, daughter drove 3 miles to pick me up and drive me a quarter of a mile to the carpark to get my car, travelled home sat on a carrier bagsmile

Knittedfairies Thu 28-Mar-19 19:20:42

Go and see your GP who will definitely not be 'totally nonplussed' as mentioned upthread!

Alsohuman Thu 28-Mar-19 19:18:21

You have my sympathy. Several of my friends and I joke that we keep Tena Lady in business. We all have stories like yours. You’re definitely not alone.

Plurabelle Thu 28-Mar-19 19:08:56

BlinkingBrexit Thu 28-Mar-19 19:07:13

No that's ok - am not offended - I understand the suspicion. I had no idea people actually did that! 🙄 so I deliberately have not drunk as much lately because I suppose it was in the back of my mind . So like Melrose said - maybe that's the wrong way round. My job involves house visits and I always drink less so I don't have to ask to use their loos !

OldAndWornOut Thu 28-Mar-19 19:05:30

I quite regularly 'dribble' and coughing, sneezing and so on can lead to rather more, as is the case with all (I only have 2, actually) of my friends.

RockinHippy Thu 28-Mar-19 19:04:58

Oh I nearly forgot. Get your vitamin D checked too.

I was down for surgery for all sorts of prolapse problems that caused this for me. I switched my prescription Vitamin D to a high dose natural D3 with magnesium & a bit of fat such as coconut oil & I was gobsmacked that it really helped the prolapse stuff & weak bladder too. I didn't get the surgery, but haven't needed it

thedisorganisedmum Thu 28-Mar-19 19:03:38

Even if the OP was a troll, but the story could help other women to seek help, it would still be worth keeping the thread.

Tillyop Thu 28-Mar-19 19:01:15

I think some posters are wary as there was a well known pee troll who posted similar OPs hoping others would share their stories

Not saying the troll is you op

YouTheCat Thu 28-Mar-19 18:55:50

What Melroses said. If you don't drink enough it can irritate your bladder and make it worse.

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