I'm in my 30's, a few years ago I was cut out of the family by DM who is a narcissist. This all came about because I read the toxic parents book and decided to stand up for myself once and for all. I refused to be abused any longer by my DM And as a result I was cut off. I'm not the first member of the family to be cut out by her and I won't be the last I'm sure.
Anyway, I miss my step dad a lot and lately I've been thinking about sending him a message. I know when I was kicked out of the family he told me that he was in an awkward position and had to 'be on my mums side to keep the peace at home' so he couldn't speak to me.
I know about the enabler but I also know DSF is quite far under DM's thumb aswell.
Either way, I want to tell him that I still love and miss him but I don't know if IABU as it will likely just result in a nasty reply from DM who will tell me DSF hates me after what I did to her blah blah blah. I don't care what she thinks or says about me but I don't want to cause him any pain or problems but at the same time I don't want him to think I don't care about him
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coddersrodders · 21/03/2019 10:39
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