After some constructive advice really. I don’t want to be flamed but equally perhaps I need a stern talking to! Basically I have been TTC for 5 years now. First round of IVF didn’t work sadly, but we did manage to get a frozen embryo which is due to be put back in next month. There is no reason that it shouldn’t work / take – we are currently “unexplained infertility”. So we remain hopeful. But, we only get two free rounds of IVF where we live, and this counts as our last round – so in the back of my mind I also see this as a bit of a last chance saloon (I am 36). Anyway, I am increasingly finding myself living in fear of a pregnancy announcement from one particular person. At my age I am used to frequent pregnancy announcements – and I am typically nothing but delighted for the person announcing. Most of my good friends now have children, and whilst it can be a bit like “oh well, another one down, hopefully my turn soon”, I am genuinely always pleased for them. However, this person is different. She’s the wife of one of the guys in our wider friendship group, and my god she is just beyond annoying. The most boasty person I have EVER met. Never asks a single question when you’re in her company, it’s all about her and her latest work achievements etc. It’s really tiresome and tedious. She’s mentioned that she wants to start trying for kids soon, and the last few times we’ve all been out in a group situation she’s left early and not been drinking. This alone isn’t abnormal for her but I am now constantly on edge that they are about to announce a pregnancy and frankly, it’s eating me up. I feel such a fear about this possible announcement even though it may not happen for a while or indeed happen at all. It’s become all-consuming and is making me sad. I know it’s not rational and I can’t quite articulate why but I think it’s because she’s just so bloody annoying and smug anyway, her falling pregnant would sort of my my worst nightmare. This is also daft but I hate the thought of everyone else in our group feeling sorry for me as the only infertile one left (for background, pretty much everyone finds her incredibly irritating, apart from, it seems, her own husband). It’s starting to drive my own husband nuts, and I don’t want my abstract fear of her to start damaging my own relationship! Any advice would be helpful. How can I get over my obsession with this annoying woman?!?
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sheffieldsweetheart · 20/03/2019 13:56
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