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DM, next door neighbour and the bins....... AIBU

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LikeARedBalloon Tue 12-Mar-19 10:55:30

Gosh, yabu. Accept his favour and get out your car once a week to move the bin if it's in your way. You may need his help one day if you're not able to stay with your mum for any reason and helpful neighbours are hard to find. Don't be petty and rock the boat.

Justmuddlingalong Tue 12-Mar-19 10:52:40

I remember your previous posts. You seem determined to find maximum stress in normal everyday situations.

Nanny0gg Tue 12-Mar-19 10:48:50

Say nothing. He may be invaluable when you're not staying any more

CarrieBlu Tue 12-Mar-19 10:47:38

YABU. Appreciate that your mum has a helpful neighbour and stop being lazy - it’s only nudging a bin along once a week! If I did this for someone and their DC ‘had a word’ with me about it, I’d stop doing it.

Barrenfieldoffucks Tue 12-Mar-19 10:47:21

Besides, surely you drive up, hop out leaving engine running, move bin then park? Must take all of 15 seconds?

Barrenfieldoffucks Tue 12-Mar-19 10:45:43

I really wouldn't mention this.

"Next time you're doing my mother a favour, would you mind not inconveniencing me"?

TeachesOfPeaches Tue 12-Mar-19 10:44:39

Do you mean operations?

dustarr73 Tue 12-Mar-19 10:43:58

Hes doing a nice thing.If you have a word,he might stop doing it.

WeeDangerousSpike Tue 12-Mar-19 10:39:33

If he didn't put it there, wouldn't you be more likely to find someone else parked there? So he's effectively reserving you a parking space by doing it?

I think yabu, I get that it's irritating, but I think the help outweighs the inconvenience.

ourkidmolly Tue 12-Mar-19 10:34:07

It's a really minor detail. You're just being very lazy. Don't mention it.

oh4forkssake Tue 12-Mar-19 10:33:22

Honestly, I would leave it. It's irritating but it's so small in the great scheme of things, and even if your Mum is getting better, how nice is it that she has good neighbours.

This is something that I'd let go and I don't let much go.

Treaclesweet Tue 12-Mar-19 10:33:03

YABU. He's helping your mum out. It's not really that much of an inconvenience. You're being petty. Get a hobby.

MoistMolly Tue 12-Mar-19 10:31:15

If somebody had a word with me about this, I would just stop helping out altogether.

HungryForSnacks Tue 12-Mar-19 10:07:16

It's only once a week though isn't it? I probably wouldn't say anything seeing as he's doing your mum a favour

Shoxfordian Tue 12-Mar-19 10:02:15

And if she moans about it then it doesn't really matter as long as it means you can park without moving the bin every time.

kenandbarbie Tue 12-Mar-19 10:01:45

Why don't you speak to him but not tell dm you did. You don't tell her every little conversation you have do you?

TheSerenDipitY Tue 12-Mar-19 10:01:44

well its kind of a minor thing, he is being kind and getting out of the car to move it isnt that annoying is it? he could instead leave it out and just take his and it is likely to be taken ( judging from all the bin CF threads i have read)

onanothertrain Tue 12-Mar-19 10:00:17

Your mum's house, her neighbour. If she doesn't want to mention it to him then that's fine. If it annoys you do much why don't you mention it to the neighbour and put the bin out yourself, although what happens when you're no longer there? It's what, once a week maximum?

Whatdoesitmatteranyway Tue 12-Mar-19 09:58:55

Because if I do, DM will just moan at me for it.

Shoxfordian Tue 12-Mar-19 09:58:07

Why don't you have a word with him? It's you he's inconveniencing. Speak to him yourself op

Whatdoesitmatteranyway Tue 12-Mar-19 09:55:43

Hi

Some of you will recognise me from previous posts about my DM.

BAsically I stay with her monday-thursday and will be until later this year. This arrangement works for me for work and her because she's disabled and had two major surgeries and is about to have another one. She's becoming less disabled with each surgery.

Her lovely neighbour bring her bin up to the road from the side of her house every Tuesday. he has done this for years. I get back later than him but if I get back before him, I bring his to the road. This doesnt happen often.

The problem is EVERY time he does it, he puts the bin right in my parking space. (diagram is attached).

I can't drive onto it from either side. I normally park blocking mum in but thats where he puts the bin. I don't want to block him in obviously.

So this means I have to pull up in the car, get out, move the bin, then park , move the bin next to his bin (which is where he puts it if there is a car aleady where I park), get back in the car and park up.

Its a minor irritant but its still annoying.,

I've asked DM to maybe have a quiet word and ask him nicely if he could not block my space. But she point blank refuses as she doesnt want to annoy him or seem ungrateful.

But I don't think it would be ungrateful would it?

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