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AIBU to think that this site is endorsing domestic violence?

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FizzAfterSix Sun 03-Mar-19 18:17:04

I was reading a thread on Quora about John Lennon and the thorny subject of his alleged domestic violence to both his wives came up.

I just couldn’t believe it when commentators started excusing domestic violence because he `might’ have had bipolar or some unspecified mental illness. And then a commentator wrote:

`I’m not ashamed to say I’d hit a woman with equal force if she hit me. You’re a woman and you should know because you asked for it….its called equality’

Maybe I have too much time on my hands but as a victim of DV myself this really got my goat and I replied:

`Wow. Women are physically weaker than men so if you hit a woman 'with equal force' you'd probably kill her.

You sound like a disgusting wife beater trying to justify male abuse. Pathetic’.

OK, I apologise for using strong words like, um, pathetic, but I was even more shocked to get a poncy email from Quora telling me off.

We recently found some of your content that violates Quora's Be Nice, Be Respectful policy (See What is Quora's "Be Nice, Be Respectful" policy?).

Please keep this policy in mind when interacting with other people on Quora. If you continue posting content that violates this policy, you may be banned from using Quora. For more information, see: How do I appeal a Quora Moderation decision?

AIBU unreasonable to be thoroughly pissed off that Quora objected to my pretty mild language responding to a commentator sanctifying domestic abuse? Why is it that I am being accused of not being `nice’ and `respectful’ when surely they should be going after a man who boasts about not being `ashamed to say I’d hit a woman with equal force…’ etc etc.

It’s horrifying that 50,000 women a year are killed by their partners (according to a UN report in 2018) and extraordinary that mainstream social media sites are just compounding the problem like this.

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