He wees all over the seat

There's no excuse unless someone is ill. Men who do this do so because people put up with it.
Your dh should speak to him or agree to clear up after his dad has been in there.
'Very nice' men don't piss on the seat or toilet rim for someone else to clear up. I wouldn't excuse it. My DP, My son and my 6 grandsons all manage to use the toilet without leaving a mess as I'm sure many other males do.

I would say if dad or anyone is having flow problems to get checked out prostate problems can be treated a psa test perhaps as well

I understand your frustration, but seeing as he's a nice man, your father-in-law and a guest in your house... I'd just clean it, if I were you.

Are you saying that when you walk into the loo and you are seeing the underside of the toilet seat because it’s up and therefore facing you, that you see yellow splashes. Because if that is the case chances are it’s not him causing them. I have come to the conclusion in my house it’s me . If the seat is up it’s the bowl that suffers my DHs splashback. When I’m sitting down my pee hits the front of the bowl and splashback hits the underside of the seat I am sitting on. I was quite sad when I realised this as I always thought men were the splashy mucky pups (men’s toilets always smell rank, women’s less so) but I’ve checked and the underside seat marks are definitely me.

He blames it on the kids. Drives me fucking insane. He's a regular normal bloke good dad and all that shit but will walk out of the toilet in light coloured trousers with a wee patch. Blow jobs are off the menu until he can sort it out.

babysharkah why in gods name can't he wipe his own piss up?

My husband does this it's fucking gross and a major bone of contention. I have threatened to wipe his toothbrush in it. I don't see why I should wipe piss off the seat at home when I wouldn't do it in a public toilet.

How old is he?

I have an elderly relative who comes to visit and his aim and eyesight isn’t very good. He tries to clean up best he can if he misses (has dodgy hips so issues getting up and down without his aids) I understand this and doesnt bother me in the slightest

If no issues then this does sound dodgy and disrespectful. your DP needs to sort it out

would ask partner to ask his dad to put the loo seat down and to wipe the loo after his dad has gone.

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I wouldn't clean up my in laws urine.... Male your DP do it and then the problem is solved with no embarrassment

Arnoldthecat you are not weird - my H sits down too. Has done for ages (probably started when we had boys and he realised just how much pee misses the bowl).

Tell your DP you won’t be cleaning his dad’s piss up anymore and he can do it. If he decides to talk to his dad about it, so be it.

Why dont men simply sit down to pee? I do if at home so whats the problem or am i a weirdo?

Poor flow doesn’t mean you get to splatter your piss everywhere for someone else to clean up. It’s gross and rude.

He needs to sit down to Pisa if he can’t wipe up after himself.

Get DH to have a quiet word. Or get DH to wipe his dads piss up.

He probably has prostate problems, a poor flow very common at his age. Ask your partner to have a quiet word.

Get a sign like THIS and put it over the toilet.

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The seat is down before he arrives. He puts the seat up, wees, and leaves wee on bit which is under the toilet seat (I'm not sure what that bit is called). He leaves the seat up.

I go in, seat is up. There is wee. I am not going to put the seat down without clearing this up. Hope that made sense

Please don’t embarrass him!
You say he’s a nice guy and I’m sure he’s not doing it on purpose.

I would tell my dh to deal with it, either by clearing up after his own dad or speaking to him.

Sorry I don't understand. If your dp's dad is lifting the seat then the wee is already there. Either your dp wees with the seat down and is splashing it, or you are, or....other people/kids in the house are. You just don't normally see it because the seat is down.

Next time you know he's coming, go and check under the loo seat... You'll see the mess already there.

Much as I detest this, leave it up for the duration of his visits. Then back down in a normal, civilised way when he's gone

Or a more direct notice? "If you make a mess, please wipe it up afterwards".

Err, it can't be that difficult to notice if you are urinating in the toilet bowl or not. It's just laziness. Get DP to have a quiet word.

That is bloody gross but sounds like it's totally unintentional..
Just think if he did lift the seat it would still be splashing but probably out of the toilet!

Get one of those cheesy signs-

If u sprinkle when u tinkle please be sweet and wipe the seat..
Iv also seen one that says
Stand close- it may be shorter than u think..

And leave some anti bac spray laying around..