Admittedly, my DC's are still very young, 2 and 4. My oldest is a girl, second one boy. The reason I'm worried is that my own relationship to my mother isn't very good. We just don't et a long AT ALL, and haven't been since I was a pre-teen.
She is very overprotective, a bit controlling and constantly doling out unsolicited advice that comes across as criticism and meddling. She is also quite negative, never listens to other people, moans a lot and is quite selfish. This all sounds horribly unkind and ungrateful, and beleive me, I am constantly working on imporving my relationship with her, on being patient and kind and trying not to take to heart her behaviour. She is not the kind of person who listens to anybody and would never change at all, so there is no point in trying to work through things with her, I have resigned to how she is, and am just trying to make our relationship bearable.
But I am SO WORRIED this will affect my own relationship to especially my DD. My DH frequently makes jokes about me being similar to my mother, which really upsets me (and I've told him so) because I am so unhapy with the way she treats me - and most people around her. I am trying to work through my own personal issues and attempting to analyse my own charater traits to avoid becoming like her. But I just don't have a model for a positive mother-daughter realtionship.
At the same time, I feel that most of my friends are also quite critical of their parents, and often don't get on well with their mothers. Is it even possible?
Thoughts?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To wonder, how do you ensure a good mother/daughter realtionship
30 replies
Londonmamabychance · 25/02/2019 11:43
OP posts:
MirriVan ·
26/02/2019 11:50
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.