I complained about a child in DS class, let's call him bob. Bob was teaching swear words and two fingers, they're 6 and 7. At the time I was fobbed off. Bobs got an older brother...
Bobs mum was being overly friendly and quite pushy for a play date. I agreed for bob to come to us, so that I could supervise. Did not let DS go to bobs house. But lots of messages were swapped and I tried to maintain a friendly front. I don't want DS to be friends with Bob but I will never say that or try and stop them playing together. I just want Bob to behave when he's around my DS.
There were 2 more incidences where I asked school to step in. They involved damage to property and a serious incident that was missed by staff. I provided photographic evidence of severe bruising. Bob jumped with both feet on to my DS ankle. I got a barrage of texts from Bobs mum telling me to stop complaining to school blah blah. I stood up for myself and DS, did not apologise and stood my ground. It blew over.
Recently, another lad in class is having a hard time. Bobs mum has moaned to one of my friends that this other boys mum has complained about bob. She's sick of him being painted as the naughty kid in class.
Another mum told me she was very upset but not going to complain. Bob made racist comments to their child. There are only 2 non-white kids in the class and she did not want the risk of confrontation from the mum.
AIBU to think school should be able to involve parents in behaviour management, whilst also protecting the confidence of the parent that complained?
I get that if Bob punched Bill in the face, then parent gets told Bob punched someone in the face - it's quite easy to know who complained. How should school be dealing with this?
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AIBU?
To think school would act in confidence?
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WhatNow40 · 24/02/2019 11:34
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