My best friend of 8 years is childless & wealthy, I have a 4 year old son, not well off. We live in London, as of next year I will be working in Scotland for 2 months on, 2 months off shifts. My DH will be doing childcare alongside afterschool clubs while I am away, the rest of the time I'll be 100% off.
We do not have much money and I have not had any other earning opportunities. Without this it would be pinning our hopes on a council house or something, our savings are running out fast.
Aforementioned best friend is currently not talking to me. At first she would just ignore me for a few days if I mentioned my job. I recently told her something really important/good re the job's accommodation, and she hasn't spoken to me since. She thinks I will give my son abandonment issues and traumatise him, even though I'll be able to skype him & call multiple times a day from my job. I plan on giving him a special 'mummy bear' that smells of me/is the colours I always wear so he can cuddle the bear when he misses me. I will be sending him recordings of bedtime stories so if there's no signal and I can't read over Skype, or he misses my voice, he can listen to me reading to him.
I don't WANT to be going away but there is no alternative right now. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity to get onto a good career track and I have had no other jobs so far, even the local supermarket rejected me. I'm just so pissed off that she thinks I'm abandoning my child- people in less well off nations have to travel to different countries to earn money & feed their children and they aren't judged for it. People can give their children abandonment issues while living under the same roof. As long as he is loved and knows he's loved surely he'll be fine?
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Best friend not talking to me- working away
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Workaday · 21/10/2018 23:44
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