To think this isn't a surprise present

[mardyoldbastard]

OH mentioned he bought me a nice surprise so I've been excited these past few days.
It's just arrived now and it's some sexy lingerie nightie thing.

I've just had a baby 3 weeks ago it's the last thing I want and it's more for him than me

[Aprilislonggone]

Return it and get some nice tartan fleece pj's!!

[LucieMorningstar]

Get him to wear it?

[EndeavourVoyage]

Aww that’s nice he is thinking about you, even if it is just having sex with you. Thank him and say you will put it in your drawer until you are ready to wear it for him. Don’t be too hard on him, he thinks it was a good idea

[mardyoldbastard]

@LucieMorningstar 😂😂 may as well I won't be wearing it.

[ADastardlyThing]

Oh dear. Not thought that through has he.

[Ellisandra]

Context is all.

If my first husband did that, it would be because he wanted sex, and whilst he wouldn’t have been forceful about it, it would not have been a present for me.

Second husband - he’d have been reassuring me that he still thought I was sexy as fuck, even if I was now a mum and feeling knackered and unsexy.

[PhilODox]

Well, I'm sure you were surprised...

[cheesefield]

Men are very stupid sometimes.

[OlennasWimple]

Well, technically it is indeed a surprise present, even if it was one that lacked a bit of thoughtfulness

"That's nice dear" is a phrase that goes a long way

[Darkstar4855]

What @Ellisandra said.

I know if my current partner did something like that it would be his way of trying to make me feel like I was still attractive and sexy even after having a baby - a clumsy, daft but ultimately well meant gesture! It would not in any way be him trying to pressure me to have sex with him.

My ex would have been saying “I expect sex - and for you to look sexy as well”.

I don’t think YABU but without knowing your partner it’s hard to judge how unreasonable HE is being.

[GreenFingersWouldBeHandy]

Is it the sort of thing you have worn before?

If so, he might be trying to say he still finds you sexy. But still a bit crass so soon after birth.

If not the sort of thing you'd wear then massively wrong.

If he's just hinting that he wants sex, cut the damn thing up and feed it to him.

Congrats on the baby!

[RangeRider]

Second husband - he’d have been reassuring me that he still thought I was sexy as fuck, even if I was now a mum and feeling knackered and unsexy.
Work on this ^^ assumption.

[WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll]

I do hope he meant it with the kindest of 'you're still one hot, foxy mama to me!!' indications and possibly thinking that he might also benefit from said surprise but it does remind me of that episode of the Simpsons, where Homer presented Marge with her own special bowling ball - drilled to fit his fingers.... and engraved with his name!

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

Put them away for when you're more in the mood. If it's more for him than you like you've said it's a bit of a crap present given you've recently given birth!

[Aprilislonggone]

Make a Guy for 5/11 and put them on it!

[elQuintoConyo]

It is a gift for himself - with the benefit of a fuck at the end.

My DH tells me i'm hot by using words!

I loathe men buying me sexy clothes and always have. It smacks of "i bought you this, now put it on so i can get off at perving at you. Oh, it's ill-fitting, synthetic and looks like a Tijuanan brothel owner would wear it? But i bought it for you..."

Bleurgh.

Tell him if it doesn't fit him, to return it.

[SailorBean]

I second what PPs have said about it being his way of saying he still thinks you’re sexy af after having your baby. Wish my DP would buy me pretty lingerie instead of grinding on me when I’m pottering round the house
(Signed similarly frustrated at 6wks postpartum)