Following on from my previous thread when I was introducing the dream feeds.......... my DH and I have just had the mother of all fights. So s not to drip feed I'll lay out the facts now. He works 9/5 mon-fri. I'm on mat leave. I get kid no.1 to school and during the day tend to kid no.2 plus housework etc. I do the school pick up and arrange dinner And help with homework. I 90% do the dishes general tidying etc then bath time. We take.it in turns to put kid1 to bed. Occasionally I might have a couple of hours of sleep between 8pm until 10/11 then I sleep with baby in the lounge in order to let DH sleep uninterrupted upstairs. I get our bed nd room on Friday night which I really.look forward to! I am happy with the arrangement and we have ticked along fine. That was until LAST WEEK when I introduced the dream.feeds. getting baby up to have a bottle between 11pm and 12pm. All hell has broke loose today because he went up to bed at 10. I naturally assumed he would do it. He thinks 12 is too late to go to bed. But it's still a good 6/7 hour block of sleep for him. Whether I'm lucky if I get 3 hours uninterrupted. I accused him of not getting on board with the dream feeds as it meant he would definitely have to do at least one feed every night. Whether before hand it was just luck of the drawer as to whether or not the baby would wake. I don't know why but I've been crying for the past hour as I feel so hurt he's not backing me up. He explained if he were on mat leave he would DREAM of making me do it if I wanted to sleep. But I honeslty think he's got a good thing going. Speaking to other parents I know they all sleep in the same room as baby so by default both get woken when baby stirs. It's quite possible I'm in the wrong. Please be gentle with me if I am. I suppose I'm still in the new born haze and I can't think straight. I'm interested to see what's the mumsnetters be live to be a fair distribution of jobs regarding the kids.
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