Dh is a director of company. I hear him talking how he’s done a deal. Usually involves ‘getting one over on a client’, ‘coming out on top’. He does what ever he can to win. He speaks to employees in a terrible manner. He puts them down when they haven’t done exactly how he wants thing. They’re on a hiding to nothing in my eyes. However he has his favourites and treats them like gold!! <br>Then there’s me!! He tells me he loves me every day. Is tactile. However what comes out of his mouth doesn’t match!! <br>Silly examples in the last couple of days are:<br>We were in the car, he was reversing while screaming at me to get out and see him back. I said ‘if you could stop the car, I could get out’. I asked him 4 times to stop the car so I could help. The entire time he continues to scream at me to get out of the car and watch him back!! He was reversing..the car was going about 10mph!! He then stopped once reversing done and clapped in my face and told me how clever I was for being a dick. Told me to piss off as he wasn’t pissed off I hadn’t helped him and how is changed a good day into a bad one!!<br>Example 2 - we’d had a lovely day. He seemed tired. He was snapping at everyone but I was determined not to let him bring me down. I asked if he was tired. I asked this lovingly and put my hand on his shoulder and offered him a cup of tea while asking this. He screamed “if you want to ruin this day and start a row then you’re going the right way about it. Ffs!”<br>Example 3. In a shop buying dd goggles. There were two types. He asked which ones to go for. I said the yellow ones as they were cheaper and didn’t seem much different. He said ‘I wish you’d not ignore me, tell me which ones’. I repeated the yellow ones and actually picked them up. He snatched them off me and put them back on the shelf and said ‘I will tel you again..don’t fucking ignore me and tell me which ones or I will walk out of this shop right now’. (He’d raised his voice now and was fierce). I was feeling shaky and my poor dd’s were looking. I didn’t know what he was getting at. So I now changed tact and said ‘I don’t know which ones are best’. To which he said ‘don’t fucking ignore me’ and stormed out!! <br>What did I do wrong here? I didn’t ignore and I showed him and told him. <br>I just stood there fighting back tears. He came back in and picked up the blue pair and paid for them!! So basically he was asking me which ones but I’d picked the wrong pair!! <br><br>It’s so hard. I would love to know how to get round this. I know loads are going to say ltb but I don’t want to. But how do I stay one step ahead of a constant guessing game?!