Sat on my own cause DH has stormed off, I'm seething. <br><br>For context, I'm a SAHM. We have 2 children together, I'm pregnant (early days) and he works in a very stressful but well paid job. He works hard, no doubt about that.<br><br>He came home earlier with talks of potentially getting a payrise soon and told me very matter of fact that with his first payrise salary he was going to take the additional amount and send his mum and her husband on a fancy holiday.<br><br>For additional context, he told me he wanted to sort out finances out before the baby comes and therefore we couldn't have a holiday next year. We obviously haven't bought anything for the baby yet either. Not only that, but we recently moved and don't even have wardrobes upstairs yet as we've been biding our time buying stuff bit by bit for the house. He's not overly close to his mum, we see her maybe once every other month. He doesn't sort her bday presents or anything like that out, I do.<br><br>I was annoyed and asked him if he was joking, I pointed out all of the above and he simply cannot get why I think he's being ridiculous. We keep arguing about it, I make my point and he gets annoyed and walks away. His point is that nothing's even happened, it's a hypothetical situation why am I annoyed. Plus, we get to enjoy the money for the rest of our life why shouldn't he give his first one to his mum. Also, what difference does it make to come, he's earned it, he works hard. She raised him and he wants to treat her <br> My point is hypothetical or not it shows a lack of respect for me that this wasn't even a discussion, he just said that's what he would do. Plus, we have stuff we need first before paying for other people to go on holiday. I get that it's nice he wants to treat his mum, if he wanted to take her for a slap up meal I'd be all for it. <br><br>I'm flabbergasted, honestly. Am I being unreasonable? Am I being selfish? I genuinely don't get it. She's not in any hardship or anything, he never talks about her and isn't a mummy's boy by any stretch. We can't seem to resolve this ridiculous argument because he walks away everytime I try and make friends. It is silly cause none of this might even come about, but to me that's not the point.