I know i am, someone help!

[Uhuhhoney]

My ex left the country today for work for 6 months.

Our relationship was intense - when it was good it was amazing, but when it was bad...

He was very mixed up. Met me 3 weeks after the breakdown of his long term relationship where she cheated. No excuse however for his vile behaviour towards me - getting drunk constantly and breaking up with me, general drink problem, very rough sex, losing his temper and breaking things in front of me, lying about where he was, constantly talking about his ex, letting his female friend sleep in our bed with him when i was away... breaking up with me and throwing me out the flat at 2am 4 days before my birthday. Broke up october, no contact since January. Until Friday when he told me he was moving away. Not far about an hour away. Met up with him before he went to say goodbye (he said dont you think its strange out of everyone ill miss you the most, ill never laugh with someone like i laughed with you, i still having feelings etc etc).

And now hes gone. Why do i feel sad? Someone snap me out of it!

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Well you feel how you feel but he sounds beyond awful and your life will be so much better off without him.

You need to cut all contact with him and have a think about why you were willing to accept his appalling treatment of you. So his ex cheated on him, that’s not an excuse for treating you like shit!

[glamorousgrandmother]

You're not missing him, you're missing what might have been. The man you imagine you have feelings for is not him. Try to forget him and move on.

[Neverender]

Sorry but he sounds awful.

[Neverender]

Why couldn't he just piss off quietly?

[kitkatsky]

He was a user who used you. I don't know you, but you deserve better

[BlondeB83]

You’re missing someone who never existed! Block, delete, remove, break all contact and move on with your life! You won’t look back!

(I’ve been there! )

[BlondeB83]

His stunt on Friday was one final controlling act to make him think he has you right where he wants you! Narcissistic twat! Prove him wrong!

[Uhuhhoney]

Thank you all! I know deep down you are all so right. How do you forget an ex...

[BlondeB83]

Begin by cutting all ties - block on everything with no exceptions!

Learn to be alone, it’s not him you are missing it’s being in a relationship. Learn to be happy alone, try something new, arrange things with friends then when you’re ready get out there and find a nice man! When you do you won’t believe you put up with all that shit for so long!

[BlondeB83]

Another tip, buy a nice looking little notebook and write down everything bad he has done to you. Keep it close.

[Uhuhhoney]

I found no contact between January and now reaaaaly hard! Already off social media, and just deleted his number. I suspect he wont bother with me now he's got his new life. I hope seeing him doesnt send me straight back tp square one. Im very overly sentimental and emotional so its no surprise to me im being stupid over this!

[RedHelenB]

What were the good bits?!

[BlondeB83]

Read Lundy Bancroft’s book ‘Why Does He Do That?’ It will open your eyes to what he has done to you and why you are finding this so hard.

[HandPickedEklderflower]

He just wanted a quick shag.

[Neverender]

He will be off fucking someone else's life up soon - you should feel sorry for her, but also celebrate!

[Neverender]

Block his number too - I had an ex who called me whenever he was bored/felt a bit shit. I bet he does the same.

[ScipioAfricanus]

Two Cures for Love - Wendy Cope

1. Don't see him. Don't phone or write a letter.
   
2. The easy way: get to know him better.

[LuMarie]

*how do you forget an ex"

Time and distance.

Happily you have both of these in place already!

Repeat to self, i know he was hideous, thank goodness he's gone

Block all contact, important!

Fill your life with other things.

As my mother said (I didn't listen and cringe but she is right), "sometimes the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"!