My EXH is due to have our 2 DDs for their first overnight soon. (They are 8 - no overnights until now as not been reliable/had a flat or house etc until now). His new GF has just messaged to ask if she can pick them up as EXH is not sure when he'll finish work, and it means her DCs can spend time with mine.
For reference to avoid any drip feed - EXH and his new GF are not living together, and I have been told my DDs will be staying at EXH's new place. He is also not contacting me himself - new partner is doing it all. The two sets of kids have met about 4 times, and last time my youngest came back saying she didn't like new GF's eldest. DDs not seen EXH since April - again due to him not bothering, not because I refused contact.
I feel a bit conflicted. On the one hand, new GF is nice, she's making a real effort which I appreciate (she has organised contact, EXH new house, facilitated the passing of messages etc - not because I am being difficult, but EXH just doesn't bother) so I have no issues with her collecting, BUT i also think this should be time for DDs and their father rather than his GF's kids and mine to play, and that i should just say i'd rather he did it (i'll be honest, I suspect they'll end up sleeping over at her place or her parent's place, not with EXH). But if I do that, then not only do I look petty and difficult but it means I get to hang around all day waiting for him to collect DD's when I should be out with my DP and our DD.
AIBU to say she can do it, but ask reassurance that they will be sleeping at EXH's place to have quality time together - they haven't seen him since April after all.
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MrsPepperpot79 · 25/06/2018 15:39
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