Please help me to get a grip

[namechanged456]

This is so silly, I don't feel like o can talk to anyone in real life. Perhaps not really a aibu but hoping someone can help.
A bit of background is that I've been feeling a bit down about my appearance. In my twenties, I would say I was quite attractive and slim. Since having kids, I've just been feeling frumpy and tired.
I've been getting some attention from a younger guy at work and it has really boosted my confidence. Nothing sinister, just some compliments.
I've changed my hair style recently but the guy said it doesn't suit me. Everyone else has said it looks great. DH thinks it's nice but preferred it before. I'm really hung up on what the guy said even though I really like it myself. I can't work out why?!
Also, it was this guy's last day this week, he didn't really talk to me at all at the leaving drinks. And I'm feeling a bit empty.
I don't feel sad or anything and I don't have feelings towards this guy. Just enjoyed the little attention. This sounds so pathetic and I don't want to feel like this anymore! How can I get over it?

[LoopyLou1981]

That’s not silly at all. It’s lovely to get attention.
That said, if you like your new hairstyle you should stick with it. He’s obviously got absolutely no taste 😘 x

[namechanged456]

Thanks loopylou. It was nice to hear someone else (not friends and family) say nice things if you know what I mean?

[spudlet7]

Ignore what he said! You like it, your DH likes it, and everyone else likes it! Pay no attention to this man's presumably unsolicited opinion.

[tallwivglasses]

The little shit's playing mind games and wants to leave you wondering. Be glad he's going and maybe plan some opportunities to connect with your dh?

[tallwivglasses]

Oh, and it's not silly x

[dinosaurkisses]

There was a player in my old work that used the techniques in a pick up manual called The Game. This is one of them!

He’d pick up on a change that the woman had recently made (he always used the hair cut as it happens).

He’d ask “Oh did you get your hair done?”
The woman, who is surprised that a man has actually mentioned the change would generally be quite please and say yes.
He’d then say “hmm I liked it better before.” as a way of undermining her confidence and making her feel like she needed his affirmation.

It’s fucked up.

[77leaves]

What you think is more important than what some rando guy thinks. I think you need to find a way to get validation from yourself instead of other people. Also, that guy telling you that your new hair didn't suit you is a rude dick move. Remember that the guy is being a rude dick and that you don't care about what rude dicks think of you.

[namechanged456]

That's interesting dinosaurkisses! This is exactly what happened. I've really fallen for the game!